Can You Watch Too Much Porn?

Is it possible to watch too much porn or to masturbate too much? Before you proceed, it is likely that some people will not agree with some of the things I mention here. But I work hard not to be biased or judgmental in my posts and to remain as open minded as possible.

We know that sex is our second basic instinct – although it may seem like the first for some people 🙂  Since it is such an important instinct – its only natural that we think about sex a lot. Although it seems that people are more focused on sex when they don’t feel they are getting enough – but that’s a topic for another day.

Anything can be addictive – especially if it makes us feel good. That can include: food, drugs, alcohol, porn, masturbation and plenty of other things that makes us feel good. The point of this post is not to berate people or to tell people that they are wrong – however, you should know the warning signs if porn or masturbation are becoming too big a part of your life and are getting to a point where they are out of control.

Anything in your life can be a compulsion. When any behavior gets to that point, you are driven by an irresistible impulse. At that point, its no longer a desire for you – you feel that you have no choice and your condition forces you to act in a certain way. So, its beneficial to know the warning signs before it becomes a compulsion.

If any of these apply to you – it could be time to take a closer look at your actions and what is motivating you. Let’s be honest, watching porn and masturbation usually go hand in hand (pun intended).  So these warning signs pertain to both.

  • You stay home and don’t go out
  • You avoid dating all together
  • You choose to work at home so you can watch porn and/or masturbate
  • You prefer to stay in bed alone
  • Your hand hurts
  • Your wrists are sore
  • You put a DVD in and the lube on
  • You back up the DVD and watch it so you can get off again
  • Your time online is just to search for porn
  • You log on, just to get off
  • You have a sticky and/or wet keyboard or smart phone

These are just some suggestions. Are there other things you feel could indicate that you are addicted to porn or masturbating?

Earlier I mentioned being compulsive about something. Here are some of the identifying characteristics of a compulsive masturbator. Do these apply to you?

  • A person who isolates themselves in order to masturbate
  • A person who avoids a relationship because they masturbate
  • A person who masturbates in public
  • A person who is obsessed with touching themselves in an erotic way
  • A person who masturbates to the point where no other sexual activity is satisfying to them
  • A person who’s work suffers because they masturbate
  • A person who spends a lot of money on porn so they can masturbate alone
  • A person who lies to their partner about how much they masturbate
  • A person who masturbates to avoid their problems
  • A person who is overly preoccupied with masturbation

If you have a real problem – several of these should apply to you. But if you find 1 or 2 of these things are familiar, do yourself and your partner a favor and think about this seriously.

You can share porn with your partner, you can use porn for some stimulation when you masturbate. And, you can learn so much about yourself and what you like sexually through masturbation. There is also the option to masturbate with your partner – and help each of you learn more about each other. Porn and masturbation are not negative things – but like anything in life, you can take them too far and then it can become a problem.

If you would like more information – feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com

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