Big Sex Little Death by Susie Bright

A dysfunctional family, divorced parents at a young age, communist influence and activism in her teens and a feminist journey – these are all elements of Big Sex Little Death.

Susie Bright is a vivid and clear voice in the sex positive community – a community that is growing each month. While we are glad to see this community growing and new niches being added to it – we need to think about the “battles” and “struggles” that led to the place where we are today. One of the outspoken and unconventional women that was a part of those struggles – is Susie Bright.

This memoir is divided into three main sections – First Bites, The Red Tide and All Along the Girl Tower. If you skip forward to The Red Tide, you will be missing key background information that will help you understand how a young woman could have all the unusual experiences that Susie Bright had – many before she got her GED. This section also provides interesting insights in the situation in various parts of the United States in the 60s and 70s. It’s a very interesting contemporary history lesson sprinkled with plenty of sex.

All Along the Girl Tower is the section that shares many details of Bright’s life story – feminism, sex toys, female sexual freedom and so much more. If you want to learn more about the history of women’s sexual awakening and rights in the US – I think you will find her story very interesting.

Each of the women in the 21st century owe a debt of gratitude to the women who came before us and who blazed the trial for us – Susie Bright is one of these women. This is a fascinating way to understand more of the details about how women got the chance to come out of the shadows and join the sexual awakening that men have always had access to – won’t you come along on the journey?

Read more about Susie Bright – http://susiebright.blogs.com/

Big Sex, Little Death on Amazon – http://www.amazon.com/Big-Sex-Little-Death-Memoir/dp/1580052649/

Review – Big Sex Little Death by Susie Bright

Susie Bright is a vivid and clear voice in the sex positive community – a community that is growing each month. While we are glad to see this community growing and new niches being added to it – we need to think about the “battles” and “struggles” that led to the place where we are today. One of the outspoken and unconventional women that was a part of those struggles – is Susie Bright.

This memoir is divided into three main sections – First Bites, The Red Tide and All Along the Girl Tower. If you skip forward to The Red Tide, you will be missing key background information that will help you understand how a young woman could have all the unusual experiences that Susie Bright had – many before she got her GED. This section also provides interesting insights in the situation in various parts of the United States in the 60s and 70s. It’s a very interesting contemporary history lesson sprinkled with plenty of sex.

All Along the Girl Tower is the section that shares many details of Bright’s life story – feminism, sex toys, female sexual freedom and so much more. If you want to learn more about the history of women’s sexual awakening and rights in the US – I think you will find her story very interesting.

Each of the women in the 21st century owe a debt of gratitude to the women who came before us and who blazed the trial for us – Susie Bright is one of these women. This is a fascinating way to understand more of the details about how women got the chance to come out of the shadows and join the sexual awakening that men have always had access to – won’t you come along on the journey?

Read more about Susie Bright – http://susiebright.blogs.com/

Big Sex, Little Death on Amazon – http://www.amazon.com/Big-Sex-Little-Death-Memoir/dp/1580052649/

Sex Toy Review – System JO Offers a Variety of Lube Options for Sexual Pleasure

I have done several reviews for various lubricants, stimulants and System JO Massage Glide, which can also be used as a lube. Today, I want to share details about the great options from System JO. We’re going to cover plenty of options — get your wish list ready.

Are you one of the people who doesn’t use or has never used a lubricant? Many people feel they don’t need to use any additional lubrication or have some confusion about lubes, but I would highly recommend that you give it a try. Maybe you’ve tried KY or water, or saliva – these are okay, but none are really effective. Some lube can also be great for foreplay when you’re both getting in the mood. There are also some times when women won’t be a wet, even with the usual stimulation — so add some lube to make it more pleasurable for both of you. If you’re embarrassed about buying lubricant at the store, you can order it online and its shipped to you discreetly. The items I share in this post can all be found here – http://www.systemjo.com/public/products/jo-personal-lubricants

The need or desire to use lube when you’re having sex, enjoying some foreplay or even masturbating — don’t feel like using lube shows anything lacking in your body or your technique. Its a totally natural thing to add extra lubrication. For fast sex, you may not need any lubrication, for a pre-lubed condom, you may not need anything extra. But for long lasting sexual intercourse, for sex in a hot tub or pool, for anal sex or simply for wetter sex with less friction – lube is the answer. You may have heard of people using a lot of lube, you should experiment with the amount and type of lube that’s best for you and your partner.

One of the great things about lube is that you can decide how wet you want your play to be — you can add a little lube to limit the amount of friction or you can use more during times and activities when you need more lubrication. You can also use a lot of lube if you prefer a “sloppy wet” experience. Lube is another way to make the sexual experience the best it can be for you and your partner. Flavored lubes are great for oral sex – they provide additional moisture and many people enjoy choosing a flavor. Some of the options include: raspberry sorbet, chocolate delight, lemon splash, peachy lips, cherry burst, banana lick, juicy pineapple, sweet pomegranate, strawberry kiss, tangerine dream, tropical passion and flavored watermelon. Think of the options and combinations — yummmm :) Anyone who reads my posts know how much I like to recommend creativity and spontaneity….

Here are some of your options with SystemJO – to get your imagination working.

You can start with a simple water based lube – it is compatible with all materials, safe to use in or on the body, is very easy to clean up and comes in warming, cooling, flavored and regular varieties. It is safe for use with condoms and with any kind of toys – including any silicone toys.

A Premium Silicone Lube which is very long lasting, can be used in water, but should not be used inside the body or with silicone toys.

The flavored lubes are scented and flavored to add several additional sensory benefits for you and your partner. These are also very good for people who are leery or uncomfortable giving oral sex. With a wide variety of flavors, there is something for everyone.

Do you like the warming or cooling sensations – System JO offers lubes that are warming or cooling to the touch. You can use one or the other, or a combination of the two. It all depends on what you and your lover like – or how creative you want to get. Maybe you want a cooling touch on your nipples and a warming touch between your legs – that is very easy to accomplish with warming and cooling lubes.

Seriously – the sky is the limit and you are only limited by your imagination — take a look at the options and buy a variety pack and see which sensations you like the best.  You can experiment with how much lube is best for you. Pour some warming lube or massage glide on your hands and then start by massaging your partner’s breasts. Maybe your partner would like you to start with their feet and work your way up their legs – your lube slicked hands are going to feel very erotic and your hands slide over their skin.

Your partner probably doesn’t want to feel like you are “groping” them, but some lube gives you the advantage of having a stimulating and erotic touch as you slide your hands over parts of your partner’s body. Again — you should experiment with how much lube is best for you. System JO lubes are thicker than many, they are long last (silicone being the most long lasting) and they are very moisturizing. I have found that their products really are not sticky or tacky — they feel natural. I have not tried them all, but I have tried 5 or 6 different products and they feel great.

Master Sexpert Tips

Let’s get down to my Master Sexpert Tips for you —

  1. Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.
  2. Silicone lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
  3. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
  4. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
  5. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals
  6. For more vigorous sex – use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder – for longer — and often, that’s what we want — isn’t it?
  7. Oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate – KY Jelly should NOT be used with condoms
  8. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
  9. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you may have sex
  10. Silicone lubes are very long lasting during sex, and they are more difficult to clean up.
  11. The wide variety of lubes offer you and your partner many possibilities – so give it a try and see what feels best for you and your lover.
  12. While lube makes sex with your lover more fun – it is also great for self love. You may want to try the lube out on your own and then introduce it with your partner once you have experimented with the types to see what you like the best

Sex Toy Review – Extreme Natural Vibrating Cock (Pipedream Products)

I was looking through the toys that I have collected over the last 8 or 9 months and was trying to figure out what I’d like to review next. I’m looking through the different toys and one very common toy is missing – there wasn’t one dildo. Now, what self respecting toy reviewer can have a collection without at least one dildo and it has to be one that looks and feels like the real thing. Am I right?

So, I added the Extreme Natural Vibrating Cock to my “wish list”. I figure, if you’re going to do it – go to the “extreme”. Let me say this up front — I do not believe that bigger is the only way to go or even the best way to go. There is so much that is more important than just size. Although, it is an element that can add to the experience. With a dildo, you aren’t going to get deep passionate kisses or mind blowing oral sex – so the size and the feel are important.

I prefer the “whole package”, but for fun alone, fun in the shower or as an accessory with a partner – this is a lot of fun. Just girth and length in a toy is fun, but wouldn’t you rather feel a toy that is formed like a real penis — come on, you know you would :)

Take a look at the picture, the head is shaped like a real penis and the veins along the shaft are very – dare I say it – life like :) You will even enjoy the feel of this toy in your hands as you stroke it – I mean clean it…. but I digress…..

For people who are new to using sex toys, this is a pretty big size. Depending on the size you personally prefer – it can be used for vagina and/or anal penetration – for either, I’d recommend plenty of lube – especially for any anal play.

This toy is waterproof – so you can use it in the tub or shower. It also has a remote control that you or a partner can use. When you are using this toy with a partner, you can take turns with who has control of the dildo and the remote – to get a wide variety of experiences. Anyone who has read one of my reviews knows that I recommend plenty of creativity :)

We know there are many possible ways to stimulate the female body — nipples, neck, inner thighs, fingers, toes, the clitoris, the anus and so many other areas.  While reaching orgasm from vaginal penetration alone is rare — when the rest of the body is turned on and especially the clitoris — sometimes vigorous penetration and thrusting is just what we need — and this toy is great for that. Whether alone or with a partner – give it a try. If you want to experience double penetration without being with two men — definitely give this a try.  Of course, you can try that with a partner and almost any dildo or vibrator.

This dildo also has a great suction cup on the bottom — you can use it  on the floor, the wall, the shower or tub or anywhere else. This strong suction cup should hold for moderate or vigorous thrusting.

For the folks who would like to know the actual size — the head is about 1 1/2″ across, building to just over 2″ at the base and 8″ from the tip to the base.  (Let me add just a note that the average penis is 5-6″ — for comparison. I have heard the urban legends that the average penis size is 8-9″ – but I haven’t seen any scientific data to back that up. If you have – feel free to share.)

NOTE – The description on the website mentions huge testicles – but check the picture and you will see that isn’t right. I really liked this dildo and the addition of the vibrator is a nice touch. However, I would prefer that the wire plug into the dildo instead of the remote, so that there wouldn’t be any wire in the way when you don’t want to use the remote.

Master Sexpert Tip

  • You can use this on your clitoris, in your vagina or in your anus, but never use a toy in your anus and then move it to your vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first.
  • You can use a condom on a toy when using it around your anus, then remove the condom to move the toy to your vagina – to avoid having to clean it in the middle of your play.
  • Always use plenty of lube with your toys to increase your pleasure – even if personal lubrication is not a concern, the additional lube will give you even more fun
  • Try the toy on yourself and your partner, if your partner is interested.  Or have your partner use the toy on you.
  • This is a toy you can easily use by yourself or with a partner or for your partner. Remember you can take turns with your partner and yourself controlling the toy and the remote for added variety.
  • Always clean your toys before and after you use them.
  • This isn’t a “small” toy – so don’t be worried about using plenty of lube.
  • Finally – have fun, be creative, use your imagination and I always recommend being spontaneous…..

If you’re looking for a very similar toy, but maybe not quite so big – check out “Mr Just Right” – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/calexotics-introduces-mr-just-right/

Extreme Natural Vibrating Cock - http://www.pipedreamproducts.com/showdetail.php?Full_Number=RD117-00&DB_Number=00001417

Description from Pipeline Products website:

Pipedream Extreme Toyz White Boy Vibrating Natural Cock

When size does matter and nothing less will do, reach for this huge Realistic Cock. This incredibly life-like dong is molded after the top studs in the business and will satisfy your every desire! It’s super-soft feel and throbbing veins, you’ll swear it’s the real thing…only better! The powerful suction base sticks to almost any smooth surface and stays in place with each passionate thrust!

Sex Toy Review – Icicle Anal Beads (Pipedream Products)

We have all seen the wide variety of designs and materials that are used to make sex toys. But, the Icicles are gorgeous.  Each is made of blown glass and they include a great assortment of shapes and colors.

But – putting the look aside, I have to tell you that one of my favorite things about these toys is that you can chill or heat them. Long ago I discovered how much fun it can be to include ice in any intimate play – a toy that can be frozen or heated — is very interesting and offers unlimited ways to stimulate your partner or yourself. A usual way to have the hot and cold sensations in your love making it to use ice cubes and candles – while very fun and very stimulating, I have to say that is very messy. The Icicles give the same sensations without the mess and very easy clean up.

In my last review, I mentioned some detail about anal play — click here for more details.

This toy is made along the same design as the anal beads that many people are familiar with – but it is made of glass. Long ago I had an apartment with a whirlpool tub and a huge mirror behind it. I loved to sit candles around the edge of the tub to watch the flickering candles being reflected in the mirror. While not exactly the same, you can see awesome light reflection in these toys.

Now — if you would like to give your partner or yourself some stimulation to the senses — you can freeze this, heat it in the microwave or warm and chill it in water. I have noticed that it will also adapt to the temperature of the hand that is holding it.

Imagine that you have frozen one and heated another of these Icicles and you use them on your partner to tantalize and stimulate any of their erogenous zones – a frozen Icicle on their neck or behind their ears, a warm one moving up their leg and thigh, a cold one on their nipples and the warm one on other areas of their breast,  a frozen one sliding into her vagina or anus, or use it hot or cold for the man who enjoys anal play.

It is made for anal play, but you know I’ll recommend being creative. This smooth toy feels great on any part of your body and the “beads” give a great variation as it is moved along or dragged along the skin.

If you or your partner are active in anal play, this is a nice size toy. But if you’re new and want to experiment with anal play – this is a graduated size and starts reasonably small, so it would be good for beginners too.

I highly recommend trying out any of the Icicles – if you can get your hands on one. I hear they are in high demand and I can see why. While you’re at it – you should get a couple, remember – one hot and one cold to mix things up. Changing from hot to cold – can be very stimulating to many areas of your body…. sounds like its time to play….

Master Sexpert Tips -

  • Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for anal massage
  • For women – never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy  cleaner or soap and water. This is a very easy toy to clean.
  • Be creative – this toy has a great shape and is very flexible, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
  • Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
  • If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
  • If you are a guy who really wants to have anal sex with his woman or man, you should have an open and honest conversation with them. In addition, if they agree to try it – start small and work up to a larger toy or your penis.
  • Again – and I cannot emphasize this enough — use plenty of lube. Whatever amount you would use for vaginal intercourse, use more on the anus. The anus doesn’t create the same natural lubrication that the vagina does — so help nature.  You will thank me and your partner will thank you.

Description From the Pipedream Products Website –

Sleek, beautiful, and highly durable are just a few of the features this new wonderful anal bead bestowes. Each wand is hand-blown and seamlessly designed for comfort and is intended to be chilled in the freezer or heated up by warm water to simulate natural body heat. The non-porous glass is hygienic and easy to sterilize after the fun.

Length – 8.5 in. – ( 21.59 cm )
Width – 1.5 in. – ( 3.81 cm )
Girth – 4.6 in. – ( 11.68 cm )
Weight – 13.2 oz. – ( 410.57 gram )

Icicle Anal Beads – http://www.pipedreamproducts.com/showdetail.php?Full_Number=PD2955-00

For much more detail about anal pleasure, visit – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45&a_aid=litekepr

Sex Toy Review – Jelly Anal Rod (Pipedream Products)

People may want to keep it to themselves, but let’s be honest — anal play is of interest to a lot of people. Even if they are just curious, there are a lot of people searching for information about anal play and there are untold numbers of anal toys. Hold on to your hat – there are anal toys for women and men. That’s right – there are a good number of men who are interested in anal play – a good number of these men are straight. Anal play is NOT just a gay male topic.

Speaking of men and anal play – one of the 2 most popular articles on my blog is about the male G-spot.

Let me share some research –

In 1991, a nationally representative sampled  of 3200 men found:

–20% of men age 20 to 39 had engaged in anal sex at least once
–50% of the men who had tried it had only tried it once
–More older men reported having had anal sex than younger men (27 percent of men age 35 to 39 versus 13 percent of men age 20 to 24)

2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) conducted study on over 12,000 men and women aged 15 to 44 reported:

  • 34% of men and 30% of women engaged in anal sex at least once

Okay – now that we have some background — this is an interesting and fun toy. I would say that if you are trying anal penetration for the first time and want to use a skinny toy, this may not be the toy for you — at this time, but save the name for later.

You can use this if you are a man or a woman anally. Women, we can also use this vaginally and its nice for external stimulation about the clitoris or the anus. The shape and size of the head is nice for some external teasing and pleasing. It also has a suction cup on the bottom so you can stick it on the wall, on the floor, in the tub, in the shower and on and on. Or you can hold this in your hand and so can your partner.

The jelly material makes it very flexible, but sturdy enough for easy penetration. Since the head is wider than the shaft, and may be wider than some of your anal toys, you should use plenty of lube, so it will slide in easier.  Since the probe is a “jelly” toy – you can use it in the water, the tub, the shower, the hot tub etc –

You will also enjoy the series of  “ribs” along the shaft of this probe — very nice addition to the toy :)

Master Sexpert Tips -

  • I have recommended being very careful with anal toys to be sure they don’t slide in too far – or slip out of your fingers and “get lost”.  The base is wide enough, that you shouldn’t have concern with this toy.
  • Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for anal massage
  • For women – never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy  cleaner or soap and water.
  • Be creative – this toy has a great shape and is very flexible, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
  • Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
  • If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
  • If you are a guy who really wants to have anal sex with his woman or man, you should have an open and honest conversation with them. In addition, if they agree to try it – start small and work up to a larger toy or your penis.
  • Again – and I cannot emphasize this enough — use plenty of lube. Whatever amount you would use for vaginal intercourse, use more on the anus. The anus doesn’t create the same natural lubrication that the vagina does — so help nature.  You will thank me and your partner will thank you.

Research from the Anal Pleasure Home Study Course by Loveology University – for much more detail about anal pleasure, visit – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45&a_aid=litekepr

From the Pipedream webste – http://www.pipedreamproducts.com/showdetail.php?Full_Number=RD111-00

RD111-00
Pipedream Extreme Toyz Jelly Anal Rod

Enjoy the thrill of anal stimulation with this flexible Jelly Anal Rod. Made from super sleek jelly, this anal wand bends and conforms to comfortably reach your most sensitive areas.

Length – 8.25 in. – ( 20.96 cm )
Width – 1.5 in. – ( 3.81 cm )
Girth – 5.5 in. – ( 13.97 cm )
Weight – 10.1 oz. – ( 314.15 gram )

Sex Toy Review – Couture Collection

This is a gorgeous toy – I don’t like pink, but its very sleek and great to the touch – hand or other touch :) It has the same shape as a rabbit, but sort of a dolphin nose tip. At first I didn’t look real close at the other tip – but it swivels – very nice addition to the toy.

The toy has 3 buttons – one is the power button, one control the vibration of the toy and the third controls the rotation of the bigger tip. This is the part that can massage or tap on your G-Spot — like I said above, nice addition to the toy :)

This is not a cheap toy, but it is very nice quality and just has that luxury toy feel. Yes – you can feel the difference :) It is also waterproof – for use in the tub, the shower, the hot tub or any other watery scenario that you imagine.

This toy requires 3 AAA batteries and at first I didn’t see a location for the third – but you do need all three to make it work.

I highly recommend this toy for plenty of play with or without a partner.

A few tips –

1 – Play with the tilt of the toy for added stimulation. The smaller tip is a great clitoris massager and stimulator – but you may want to play with the intensity of the vibration — there are a number of intensities and pulses – and also the location of the tip on your body.

2 – If you like a little anal teasing along with your vaginal stimulation – turn the toy around and that smaller tip may give you a little anal play. Again – just play with the toy – to see what areas you can stimulate with the two tips — you know the experimenting with a new toy is half the fun :)

3 – The toy cleans up very easily and has a wonderful smooth feel on the shaft – very nice feel.

4 – There are many power and pulse combinations between the main shaft pulsing and the 4 settings on the rotating tip. This is also great for it to keep pace with your various levels of pleasure. Definitely communicate with your partner when you’re playing with it together to make sure you’re getting the greatest possible pleasure :)

Details from CalExotics –

•  Elevate your expectations with the new Couture Collection™. Seamless, sophisticated, waterproof massagers crafted from the finest grade Silicone. Designed for power and performance Couture” is simply the best!
•  Premium Silicone, compact, discreetly sized dual stimulators
•  Soft, pliable, flexible, seamless, and unscented
•  7 powerful functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation
•  3 speeds of shaft rotation
•  Feather touch controller with luminous lights
•  Automatic on/off button
•  Medical grade Japanese Silicone (sleeve) ABS (controller)
•  3 AAA batteries
•  4.75”x 1.25”/ 12 cm x 3 cm

For more details – http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/petite-couture-amorous.html