Has your relationship stalled in the bedroom? If so, you may consider terminating the relationship. But, would you consider ending things if it is a long term relationship? What if you are married? Is your answer different if you really do love your partner? So, what steps should you take?
If you’re unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should be a last resort. The first thing you should do, is to take steps to spice things up. This could improve more than just your intimacy with your partner, it could do wonders for your relationship in general.
As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may not know how you should proceed. If that is the case, keep reading and I’ll share some tips. Below there are four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom.
Engage in Foreplay
When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is much more than just about having sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will fail.
If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start… NOW! Its also important to remember that foreplay doesn’t have to wait until you’re in the bedroom. Think outside the box and let’s get creative. Call your lover, send a text message, or hide a handwritten note letting your partner know about your desires to be intimate with them later on. Build the anticipation and give your partner something to think about throughout the door and to look forward to later.
When you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may do more harm than good. Stopping what you’re doing to ask first can make spending time together seem like a chore. Intimacy and sex shouldn’t be a chore. It should be time you want to spend together and this time should bring you pleasure. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask. Instead, take your partner by the hand and lead them to the bedroom. On second thought, you don’t have to head to the bedroom….
- Schedule a private lunch with your partner
- Meet at a private place for an intimate picnic
- Pick your partner up at work and go on a date
- Find a romantic place to watch the sun go down
- Offer to wash your partner’s hair in the shower
- Move in close behind your partner while their washing the dishes and start by kissing their neck or back
- Whisper in his or her ear and tell them what you want to do to them
- If you only have sex at night in bed – take the initiative on Saturday morning in the shower
- Look for chances to be spontaneous, even if it is just hot passionate kissing, it will keep the passion alive and you can pick up again that night.
Talk About Your Fantasies
One of the biggest reasons couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. Is that is the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want? Do you know what your partner wants from your intimacy? Do you have sex and make love, or do you have a deep intimacy? If either of you do not know what the other ways, it is time to speak up.
Find a private time with just the two of you to talk with your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? What do you like, what do you want more of and what would you like to change? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, let your partner do the same. You should both walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.
When you and your partner share your wants, needs, desires and fantasies – keep the conversation positive and never belittle or make fun of each other. You need to be sure your partner will take you seriously and listen to you.
Experiment in the Bedroom
Another easy way you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. When you do, you may be pleased with all of your options. For starters, you can try new sexual position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ways to experiment in the bedroom.
Experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but use your best judgment. It is smart to talk to your partner about making changes first. While you’re in bed, is not the time to bring changes. So what are you waiting for? It is time to get started.
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