Ever feel like all you do with your partner is work, sleep, and have sex (in that order)? Unfortunately, it’s par for the course in many relationships, but it’s a warning sign that you’re getting bored with each other. You can deny it to each other as much as you want, but let’s face it – without seeing your partner from a new perspective once in a while, the relationship suffers.
My own relationship is no exception. I’ve been in the same relationship for over three years, I’m coming up on 1 ½ years of engagement, and I never saw the bedroom boredom train speeding toward me until I stumbled upon a way to avoid it. Here are some of the simple ways my partner and I keep it interesting in the bedroom without over-thinking it.
Whether you go to a club or take dance lessons, get familiar with your partner’s body outside of the bedroom. You might learn something about one another that you hadn’t discovered before – some people have great dancers hidden inside, just waiting for music. You can even recreate the effect later on by turning on dance music in the bedroom. Watching your partner’s moves on the dance floor just might leave you wanting more, which will make sex more than a habit or an obligation.
2. Try Something New Together
Form a closer bond by trying something together that neither of you has done before. For example, you might attend a cooking class, join a MeetUp group, or try rock climbing. Relying on each other for moral support when you’re intimidated by a new activity with new people can strengthen your relationship. Watching your partner interact with and gain acceptance from new people can also help you see him or her from a new perspective. You might be reminded of the first time you met each other, which can add a romantic vibe to the experience.
3. Choose Each Other’s Date Night Outfits
You decide what your partner wears on your next date. This is a great way to discover what your partner does and doesn’t like about your wardrobe. For example, when we online casino tried this, my fiancé chose my highest pair of heels (subtle) and shortest dress. Obviously, we know what men like, but it’s nice to actually give it to them once in a while. Knowing that your partner is attracted to your outfit also builds your confidence and makes your date that much hotter.
4. Teach Each Other a New Sport
Get physical on the tennis court, at the bowling alley, or in the pool. Teach your partner how to do something that you already know how to do well. If you can teach each other gracefully, your relationship will be stronger than most – and teaching a physical activity can be exciting for both of you.
5. Change Your Appearance
Even though you’re not fooling anyone with a daring new haircut, your partner might be excited to see a different side of you. Keeping your style stagnant can be surprisingly boring, so liven things up with new hair, makeup, or clothes every once in a while. This will remind your partner that you’re a vibrant, exciting person who has a lot to offer, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Bio: Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education where she writes about education, online degree programs, and what it takes to succeed as a remote student in online schools. In her spare time, she enjoys square-foot gardening, swimming, and avoiding her laptop.