I’m seldom totally overwhelmed by a book but Positive Energy by Judith Orloff has overwhelmed me – but in a very good way. I started out reading the Kindle edition but am ordering the print copy because I’m making too many notes. The people that I have in my life want positivity and happiness – and the messages I work to convey in my weekly radio show is to help people understand that we can make positive changes in our lives to be happier and healthier. This book is a great resource for people who want to make positive changes in their lives – even if they are already happy, Dr Orloff gives great suggestions for ways to be stronger and happier.
The book give “10 prescriptions” to transform fatigue, stress and fear into vibrance, strength and love. You may be starting to see why the contents are overwhelming. That’s a helluva prescription! Here is the summary from the book description –
- Awaken your intuition and rejuvenate yourself–and learn the cure for technodespair and overload from emails, computers, and phones
- Find a nurturing spiritual path that fits your own beliefs and inner stirrings
- Design an energy-aware approach to diet, exercise, and health–and learn how to avoid the “energetic overeating” that sabotages attempts to lose weight
- Generate positive emotional energy to counter negativity
- Develop a heart-centered sexuality
- Open yourself to the flow of creativity and inspiration to achieve greater joy
- Celebrate the sacredness of laughter, pampering, and the replenishment of retreat–it’s not selfish to take care of yourself
- Discover how to attract positive people and situations
- Protect yourself from energy vampires with specific
- Create abundance and a continuing flow of energy
I could share what I think about all of that, but it would take a month, but since I’m a love and relationship coach, I want to focus on the part in chapter 5 about developing a heart-centered sexuality. I also know most people will likely steer clear of that topic.
One point I often make in my show is that the first priority is to work ON OURSELVES BEFORE getting into a relationship. And if you’re already in a relationship and you want to be happier, you can still work on yourself. Get to know yourself better, what you need, what you want, what makes you happy. Dr Orloff goes into great detail on this very same topic – and that we do NOT need a partner to tap into and to explore our sexuality. There is no reason to let our sexuality and our sexual side “hibernate” while we don’t have a partner. I think I cheered out loud when I read that part!
She talks about working with patients who has long shut down sexuality – for a wide variety of reasons and as a coach, I know this is much more common that people may realize or want to acknowledge. And it isn’t something that is “normal” or that “just has to happen over time”. I’m always so happy to see other people tackling this topic and offering help for people in this situation. She also shares many examples from her own life to help the reader understand that she’s speaking from experience. Listeners of my show know how much I value this authenticity since I do the same thing because I feel this helps the message resonate deeper with the listener/reader.
Dr Orloff is speaking throughout the book about all of these areas of our life from an “energy” perspective and I love when she says that our “sexuality recharges everything”. This is something I’ve focused on lately – that means your sexuality in a much broader sense than just sexual relations and intimacy. Its been amazing how many times I found myself saying “Yes!” as I’m reading this book. That’s kind of embarrassing when I’m in public – but then I have to share whatever part I was reading.
I think this quote may surprise you –
“Further, it may seem surprising, but even if you never have a lover again, you can still keep this energy center open. One nun-in-habit attending my workshop who’d felt a sexual surge while meditating was much relieved to hear this!” (p. 162)
I really liked these 2 Energy Truths and quote 2nd in a recent radio show –
Energy truth #1: Your sensual-self need not be condemned to dormancy or death if you aren’t in a relationship. Energy Truth #2: When you’re sensually in love with all of life (this azalea, that Siamese cat, the foam on a cresting wave), the more passion you’ll feel individually and with a partner. Even without a relationship, your sensual-self can be fed. However, if you choose to be with partner, you won’t arrive empty-handed, nor will you expect him or her to kindle a passion you already possess. (p. 164)
You will find exercises throughout the book to help you implement the content and to start making changes. There are various strategies and techniques with clear instructions to help you work through them – not just one or two. And near the end of the chapter there is a “treat yourself” section.
There is so much more but I want to encourage people to experience this awesome information for themselves. So, if you are interested in finding out how to have a more vitalized and happier, healthier and satisfied life – I think you owe it to yourself to read this book. And if you might think a chapter of sexuality wouldn’t appeal to you, veer out of your comfort zone and you just might be surprised.
Nikki Leigh, Love Coach and Host of Ready for Love Radio
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