Holding onto myths and out of date viewpoints about relationships and marriage can hold couples back from having a truly fulfilling and happy relationship. It is important to recognize your partner and his or her individuality with so much to offer you and your relationship if you love, support and respect your partner. Encouraging your partner through support, understanding and appreciation are crucial to breaking through stereotypes and the myths that surround relationships between men and women.
Working to dismiss that type of information as old-fashioned, irrelevant and flat-out wrong can open doors in your relationship you didn’t even know were closed. When things become tense between you and your partner, keep in mind some of the stereotypes you are familiar with and work to put them out of your mind.
For example, if one of you or both of you believe that romance is the best way to hide or ignore each others faults – that will cause you more problems. Someone who is not a nice person doesn’t miraculously change because they give their partner flowers. That partner still isn’t a nice person. Romantic gestures may hide faults for a while, but the person’s true self always come through. Start by being realistic about each other and your expectations, then romance can work wonders to improve your relationship.
If you give them an inch, they’ll take a mile and if you are in a long time relationship, you most likely would have seen it by now if that is true about your partner. For most people, there isn’t any truth to this saying and it sets us up to be suspicious of someone. People who believe this myth will be suspicious when it isn’t warranted or deserved. If you give a little bit consistently, you will be satisfying your partner and they won’t need that extra. If you don’t ever give or give so infrequently that your efforts are forgotten, your partner has every right to demand a mile from you. Give him or her an inch and enjoy the journey down the rest of the mile together.
If you think that once you marry someone that you can change him or her, you are in for a rude awakening. You cannot change a person, yet you can make an impact on how they see things, you can help them adjust to new or unfamiliar ways of thinking and you could manipulate them (although I never recommend that), but nothing will change or even fix your partner.
Never manipulate or push your partner into a direction he or she resists. You may be the one who needs to alter his or her way of thinking or viewing things. You may be able to do that on your own or require the help of a love coach to show you the skills you need for better understanding and acceptance of you and your spouse. If you feel there are problems between you and your partner due to personality conflicts, try working together to learn how to express thoughts and feelings better and more productively. If you are both in love, you will find the romance in there somewhere.
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