Are you in a long term relationship and do you love your man? Likely you do, but over time you learned that love isn’t always enough to keep a relationship going strong. Work, kids, the house and so much more gets in the way of your intimate time together. Intimacy is very important to having a strong, happy, and healthy relationship. How do you keep the intimacy and desire burning?
How is your life in the bedroom? Do you feel your sex and intimacy can be improved? If so, you may be nervous about discussing the subject with your man. After all, he may get the wrong impression and think he doesn’t satisfy you anymore. If you are interested in improving your intimacy with your man, there are still a number of different approaches that you can take. A few of these approaches are touched on below.
1 – Take the Initiative and Invite Him on a Date
If you have been together for a while, there is a good chance that you haven’t gone out on a date in a while. Many couples get to a point in their relationship that is called “the comfort zone.” This zone is not one that you want to be in, as your relationship may feel more like a friendship. Friendship is wonderful, but be sure you also keep the passion alive. A step toward this goal, is to ask your man out on a date.
Although many women believe that their men should do the date asking, you sometimes have to take hold of the situation yourself. Now may be one of those times. Choose an activity that is romantic, such as a romantic comedy for a movie or a nice restaurant. This can help to spark a little bit of romance and passion in your relationship, which may lead to better and closer intimacy at home. Also keep in mind that most men like when their lady takes the initiative…
2 – Show Romantic Gestures
When it comes to “wowing,” in a relationship, women sometimes think that men should do it. You will also want to “wow,” your man like you did the first time that you met. One of the easiest ways to do so is by performing a number of romantic gestures. When out shopping with your man, grab their hand and hold it. While you’re holding his hand, gently stroke his hand with your fingers or thumb or tickle his palm with your fingertip. When you walk past him in the house, give him a quick kiss or you can reach around and pinch his on the rear end. Sending a love note to work or send him a sexy text or email during the day – these are simple romantic gestures you may want to try.
3 – Be Sexy and Seductive
If your relationship enters into the comfort zone, sex and intimacy seems like a thing of the past – its time to take the initiative and shake things up. If you do have sex, it may seem more like a responsibly or even work. To help reduce these feelings, be sexy and seductive. Do not wait for your man to initiate sex and do not ask if he’s up for it first, just get right down to business. Strip for your man or help him remove his clothes. Snuggle next to him on the couch and start massaging his whole body. You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.
Do you have an outfit that he likes a lot? Is there a way that he thinks your hair is sexy? Does he like you to join him in the shower? Is there a CD that has especially sexy songs that you both enjoy? Would he enjoy a game of strip poker? Get creative and show your man that you want him – he’ll love it and love you for taking the initiative.
4 – Be Spontaneous
As I said above, do not ask your man if he wants to have sex and do not wait for him to start. Instead, take matters into your own hands- literally if necessary. Whether you start with a little bit of foreplay or jump right into the intercourse, just do it. Your man should like the surprise. Remember that being spontaneous involves having sex at different times of the day, as well as in different locations of the house.
5 – Offer to Experiment In the Bedroom
To improve sex and intimacy it is important to know that a change can do you good. You may want to suggest to your partner that you experiment in the bedroom or take them up on their suggestion to try something different. Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean getting an additional sex partner or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. A new sex position may be just what your relationship needs. Maybe you want to buy some flavored lube to play with or maybe you want to buy some sexy lingerie. You can start slowly if that makes you feel better – but try something different.
As you can see, there are a number of easy ways that you can go about improving your intimacy with your husband. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.
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