Debunking Relationship Myths

There are certain myths that surround relationships. Sadly, many people freely perpetuate these myths, stories and advise and can do real harm to their relationships and your relationship – if you listen to them. Many of the relationship myths are incredibly damaging and it is unfortunate that these are such common beliefs. Once you understand why certain bits of advice or information can be regarded as myths, you can break through what could be blocking the growth of your relationship. You may learn to appreciate your partner and your role in your relationship even more.

Sensationalist television, magazines and talk radio have been key players in fueling the belief that there is a battle between the sexes. There are definitively some physical and psychological differences, but these things are not enough to be described as a ‘battle’. When you allow yourself to consider any kind of battle between the sexes, you risk grouping all men or all women into a certain category and as stereotyping. Once you recognize that your partner is a unique individual with a number of positive attributes, you can eliminate the idea that you have to be in a conflict or battle with your partner. A belief about a battle or conflict only leads to lack of communication, misunderstandings and it discourages growth in any relationship.

Nice guys finish last is one of the worst possible sayings floating around today. Whoever came up with that and actually uttered those words must have been feeling truly low and full of self-pity because there simply cannot be any other explanation. Nice guys never finish last. They may have a longer and harder road sometimes, but it isn’t often that you see the bullies and jerks finishing first. If they aren’t, who is? It’s the nice guys, but they are so nice and gracious you don’t hear them bragging about it. It is also important to note that the word ‘nice’ doesn’t mean ‘weak’ or ‘ effeminate’ in any way. Nice means socially or conventionally correct; refined or virtuous and not at all negative in any way. Nice is not another word for push over or spineless. Nice is as close to a ‘perfect’ man as you can come and they always end up first in line.

Romance is all you need in order to save your relationship is a wonderfully optimistic thought, but not quite accurate. If simple romance were enough to save a relationship, it would be running wonderfully rampant throughout the world today. Unfortunately, it takes more than simple romance. If you truly feel love for your partner and you are expressing it through romance, then it will save your relationship. If you are trying to use romance to buy some time or to placate your partner, then you are only buying time or placating your partner. Your time as a couple is most likely limited and should be attended to immediately by a professional.

If you would like to learn more about how to start a successful relationship or to improve a current relationship, contact me for more details – on how to improve your relationship with yourself and with your loved one.

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