From Adventurer Alone in Alaska to Cosmo Bachelor on Ready for Love Radio

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On this podcast I am going to introduce you to an adventurer and scientist who spent 18 months alone in Alaska. We talk about his adventure in the wilds of Alaska and the wild adventures he found when he got back to civilization… This is the message he sent to entice me to have him as a guest on Ready for Love Radio

While living on a wilderness island in the Inside Passage of Alaska for years in isolation, studying
Michael-Modzelewski the wildlife (no female companionship), I wrote my first book, INSIDE PASSAGE: LIVING WITH BALD EAGLES, KILLER WHALES AND KWAKIUTL INDIANS. It was published by HarperCollins in NYC. Unbeknownst to me, Cosmopolitan Magazine, the best-selling women’s magazine in the world (in 100 countries; translated into 87 languages) chose me as one of their “Bachelors of The Month” and eventually “Man of The Year.” At the same time, AlaskaMen Magazine made me their centerfold story (I got a staple in my navel but got to keep my parka on : ) I went from famine to feast — from no dates in the Alaska wilderness to 5,000 letters from women around the world. I dated many, and that is how I eventually met my wife. It’s Everyman’s Fantasy with a Happy Ending.

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To get a bit of a preview – check out this video from an interview he did and find out what happened after he got all those letters….

10 Reasons to Kiss Your Partner….

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Ten Reasons to Kiss Your Mate  

  1. Kissing lowers stress.
  2. Kissing burns calories.
  3. Kissing helps you look younger.
  4. Kissing can lift your spirits.
  5. Kissing is meditative.
  6. Kissing strengthens your marriage.
  7. Kissing builds desire.
  8. Kissing releases Oxytocin
  9. Kissing is free.
  10. 10. Kissing increases love and passion in your marriage.

Senior Citizens Get Health Benefits From Active Sex Life

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An active sex life into your 60’s and beyond can benefit your overall health. There are plenty of statistics which show this can encourage a person to live a very healthy lifestyle. For many people, they will be more concerned about their overall appearance and they eat better and exercise more.

Many individuals engaging in sex when they are over 60 are also more concerned with their overall health. This means they are willing to keep their appointments for annual check ups. They also do what the doctor recommends in regards to taking medications and to making changes to their daily habits.

The topic has become more of an issue in our society due to people living longer than ever before. For many people, life doesn’t end when they retire as it is only beginning. They can pursue new interests and they can enjoy having an active sex life. For most people at this age and older, there is no reason not to continue experimenting with sex and having a great time.

It can be a time to get to know your body in new ways. You may find sex is different at this age though. It may not occur as often and it may not last as long from start to finish. Yet there are still plenty of ways to please your partner and to make the most of it. It is always good to communicate what makes you feel good to your partner so you get all you can out of your sexual experiences.

Having a healthy lifestyle is very important for people of any age. As you get older it becomes even more important. You can make sure sexual activity continues to be a great part of life at any age. It is great to eliminate the use of tobacco and alcohol from your lifestyle. You should also eat right, get plenty of rest, and exercise regularly.

Many people in their 60’s will tell you that continuing to have sex makes them feel younger. This carries over into many other aspects of their life as well. They feel better physically and mentally. They also find they are able to maintain a very healthy and intimate relationship with that special person in their life.

In our society, it has become more socially acceptable for people to have active sex lives later in life. In the past it was deemed gross or even out of line for people of such age to think about sex. So, they kept their thoughts and activities private. Today they are able to explore and share without feeling guilty or feeling like they are being judged.

It is believed that a positive attitude about sex and realizing it is natural to want to continue having sex when you are older plays a vital role in your life. The people who don’t question their desire for sexual activity into their 60’s can relax and enjoy it. They won’t be inhibited by their age or what is going on around them.

Guest Post – Does ALL sex have to include intercourse…?

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That’s a very good question. First we have to define what ‘intercourse’ is. To most people ‘intercourse’ involves the physical act of procreation. Literally; ‘intercourse’ actually means any type of conversation. Conversation is an important part of any physical contact and should be practiced before; during and after sex.

So, the question really becomes; when does one cross the line where conversation AKA foreplay becomes sex (procreation)?

In these times; people are having sex but no intercourse. They are simply not talking to each other. I have personally seen examples of people in the physical act with no knowledge of the other’s wants or desires.

For me personally; I want to know who I am having sex with. I need to have a spiritual, sexual, intellectual and physical relationship long before sex. This doesn’t fit in today’s standards of ‘Wham, bam, what was your name ma’am?’ that seems prevalent.

For me intercourse begins when we talk. Get to know something about each other. I remember I was walking with a friend and there was a beautiful woman walking towards us. As she passed; he remarked; “Man! I would so totally tap that!”

I was a bit offended by his attitude. I said to him. “Let’s say she gives you a shot! You got to her place and you have the best sex you ever had with her.”

He almost began to salivate like Pavlov’s dog. “You hit that and you hit it again and again.”

He nodded and said: “Yeah boy!”

I paused and asked: “Then what?”

He replied in a confused state. “What?”

“You hit it! You satisfied your desires and maybe hers… now what?”


“Who is she? What does she want out of life? What does she want to really share with you?”

He was dumbfounded. He didn’t understand that I wanted him to truly understand intercourse and that ‘sex’ was meaningless without it.

Back to me… Now that I know who you are; I have to find out what you like; what you’re willing or unwilling to do. I have to find your pleasure zones. I have to find your erotic points. I have to stimulate your mind so that you may give of yourself to me freely and completely! (NOW we’re talking!)

This is where the touching begins; the massages; the probing with tongues and hands; bodies rubbing and exploring each other. Then and only when these point of ‘conversation’ are covered does the sex act begins. But that doesn’t end the intercourse. Continue to talk, touch, feel each other’s presence and desires and do whatever you have to do to fulfill their needs. Then you can find satisfaction in each other’s company.

Some people who are reading this are thinking; ‘That’s a long road to travel just to get laid!” Well if that’s your only destination; you’re right. But right now there is a beautiful, intelligent, sexual woman reading this; who wants to meet me; have a chat over a glass of wine and then make me breakfast in the morning and if all works out well; we will have more encounters that start and end the same way!

You can have all the sex you want. I’ll take intercourse any day!

By C J Cassidy

Tortured Soul Trilogy -Cee Jay Cassidy

10 Smart Things Men Can Do to Turn Women On

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Are you a guy who’s tired of the buff guys getting the girl? Are you totally out of your comfort zone at the gym? It can be pretty intimating in there. So – what’s a nice guy who’s reasonably cute, to do to get a girl’s attention?

I found some tips that just might help you. These are all things you can do and not one requires lifting weights or showering at the gym… but you can if you want :)

These are from an article titled

Guys: 10 Sexy Smart Things You Do That Turn Us On

Here are the tips –

1. Have a deep, passionate interest in something.

2. Read — of your own accord!

3. Use a rich (but not pretentious) vocabulary.

4. Have an opinion on worldly issues.

5. Know what your dreams are … and chase after them.

6. Talk to me for hours about any topic under the sun.

7. Have not only booksmart intelligence, but emotional intelligence.

8. Have your sh*t together.

9. Have personal taste.

10. Teach me something new every day — even without even meaning to. –

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9 Top Female Fantasies

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I found a list of the top 9 female sex fantasies – and of course I had to share them. Take a look and let me know what you think. I’m going to share the main fantasies and at the bottom of the page, click the link to read the full article —

The fantasy headers are from Gabrielle Moore – the comments are from me :)

1. Her Dominating You

Maybe your woman wants to dominate you – its awesome to be wanted or even craved by our special someone. I have also been told by many men that they like for their partner to take the initiative – let you partner know that you WANT them… and then show them just how much.

2. You Dominating Her

On the other hand, maybe your lady wants you to dominate her. She may work and manage the house and care for the kids and many other things. Some of us get tired of being in charge all the time :) So its nice to not have to take charge for a change. But let me offer a suggestion – even when you’re “in charge” listen to her comments and sighs and watch her reactions to see what she is enjoying and what you may want to do differently. If you’re giving her oral sex or giving her a massage – watch her reactions and listen for her reactions. If you aren’t getting the reactions you want, switch things up or ask her to show you what you wants… and then follow her lead.

3. Hot For Teacher

Role playing can be a lot of fun when both partners are fully engaged. Does she fantasize about a hot teacher she had in school or maybe a well built and appealing fireman? There are unlimited options – watch her reactions when you’re watching TV, or a movie or are in public. What gets her attention?

4. Stranger Danger

Guys I might shock you with this, but women think about having a hot encounter with a stranger. Likely she wouldn’t actually do it, but that doesn’t mean she can’t think about it. That means, this fantasy opens up another role playing option for you and your partner.

5. Three’s Company Too

I think most people know what many men fantasize about a threesome with 2 women. Well, there are more women female-sex-fantasies-woman-in-chargethan you may imagine, that fantasize about the same thing. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t like men, it just means she may be curious to see what its like to be with a woman in some ways and she may want to see how you interact with another woman and herself.

6. Three’s Company Too (Part 2)

The other side of the threesome idea is to be with two men and this is something many women think about. That doesn’t necessarily mean she wants to see her man get physically involved with another man – maybe she just wants her partner and another man to spoil her rotten. Maybe she wants to try double penetration or a number of other combinations.

7. She likes to watch…

Some women enjoy seeing their man masturbating – maybe she sneaks a peak at him in the shower. Could be anywhere, but if you want to watch, tell him. In combination with fantasy #8 – you could engage in mutual masturbation. Maybe you watch one another pleasuring yourselves – watch how your partner pleasures themselves, you will get valuable insights into what feels good to them. Watching each other can also evolve into pleasing each other with your hands, your mouths, or any other parts of your bodies —–

8. She likes to be watched

Do you like to be watched? I’ve spoken to many men who want to or enjoy watching a woman pleasuring herself. And a major perk to having him watch is that he’ll be anxious to join you. If you get the opportunity to let your partner watch, keep in mind that its a chance to show him what you like too.

9. Dancing Queen – 

I have no sense of rhythm when it comes to dancing, but I’d love to have a special someone dance for me…..

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Health and Relationship Benefits of Sex Toys

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I know that header may be controversial and may upset some people – but there are health and relationship benefits to using sex toys alone or with your partner. So – true to the mission of Ready for Love Radio – we’re going to talk about it.

I’m Nikki Leigh, a Love and Relationship Coach and the host of Ready for Love Radio. When I decided to do this show – there was only one possible guest – Tamara P Bell. This week my guest is also a Love Coach and a Pleasure Party Planner and owner of Home Pleasure Party Plan Assoc (HPPPA) .

We will talk about –

  • The various types of toys for men, women and couples
  • The kinds of health issues that can be helped with sex toys
  • How sex toys can be beneficial to your relationship
  • Ways to introduce toys to your partner
  • Tips on things to avoid when talking with your partner
  • Are men really intimidated by sex toys
  • Does your partner’s knowledge and approval of your sex toy use make a difference in how much they help you
  • We have these answers and much more.

This podcast does have adult content – parents are cautioned and people who do not want to hear sexual content are also cautioned.

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About Tamara P Bell

Tamara has been in business over 20 years, providing outstanding business opportunities and exceptional customer service. This business was designed by women for women, men & couples. We have a Certified Loveologist ®, Love Coach & Master Sexpert on our team. We are also a member of the Home Pleasure Party Plan Association.

Our mission is: “To provide the BEST education on enhancing relationships, the proper usage of adult products & offer a great business opportunity to the future entrepreneur.”

We were established as a home party company in Sacramento, CA, based on the goal of women, men & couples being able to buy adult material confidentially and comfortably. Home parties offer everyone a comfortable place to purchase adult novelties, get educated and to have fun. Our home parties are a girl’s night out, couples get together and all male shopping sprees.

We emphasize education and supplying the customers with creative ideas to enhance intimacy. Our products are so good that the customers keep reordering. They also keep telling their friends. We will ship products all over the United States. Hopefully you will host a show and tell a friend….

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Guest Post – Ultimate Summer Sex Toy – Add Ice to Your Lovemaking

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This is a guest post by sexpert, Mitzi Rae. Mitzi will blog and share info here on a regular basis. Please note – these posts will usually be more graphic and adult, than other posts.

The Ultimate Summer Sex Toy

By Mitzi Rae

Summer is officially here and the temperature at my house is creeping closer to 100 this afternoon – so my mind is thinking of ways to stay cool. But, we all know that really good sex is often hot and steamy, so how can you integrate the ideas of staying cool and still keeping the sex hot and steamy? My recommendation would be to incorporate ice cubes into your love making and sex play. If you haven’t tried it – you really should. Ice cubes are one of the simplest homemade sex toys you may ever use.

The first time a partner used ice cubes with me was after a company banquet and I’d had way too much to drink, so my senses were definitely dulled. But I still enjoyed it very much. When I tried using ice with a partner – without being drunk, I enjoyed it even more :)

There are many things you can do with ice with your partner to cool things down – while spicing them up. Here are some suggestions and I welcome your comments about other ideas. I’m always looking for good ideas.

Master Sexpert Tips – Before we get started

  • Go to the kitchen, get a bowl and fill it up with ice cubes – if you have fancy ice trays, that’s fine too, but they are going to melt quickly, so fancy shapes will only make a first impression.
  • I would recommend getting comfortable in a place that can get wet – the ice is going to melt. Or, get a couple of fluffy beach towels or a blanket to lie on.
  • A couple of smaller fluffy towels would be useful too – just put them off to the side until you need them.
  • If you have air conditioning or fans, definitely turn them on and I enjoy a breeze blowing through an open window too – you know how good it feels to have air blow across your wet body

Master Sexpert Tips to Turn Your Lover On While You Cool Them Off

Okay – we’ve got your supplies together, now let’s get busy.

  • Let’s start things a little subtle. When its hot – inside or outside, every inch of your body is hot and wants to cool down.  What spots on your lovers body would you touch with your fingers? Their face, neck, arm, chest, leg, thigh…. Put a piece of ice in your hand and touch all those places with the ice, to keep their interest – slide the ice over their skin from one point to the next. If you want – you slide the ice over their skin and come behind the ice and lick it off. Or, simply let the air hit the wet trail you left.
  • Do you and your partner enjoy playing with feet? Then definitely incorporate ice in the time while you’re playing with your partner’s feet.  This can include running the ice over the sole of your feet, around the edges of your feet and around your toes if you want. Have fun with it.
  • I don’t know about you – but my head and neck sweat very bad when I’m hot. So, you may want to cool your partner down by running the ice cube along the upper edge of their forehead, and especially on the back of their neck at the base of their hair. If you do this on the forehead, its likely the melted ice will run into their eyes – keep that spare towel handy or lick it off for them…
  • Pick a piece of ice that will easily fit in your mouth and think of all the places on your lover’s body that you’d like to kiss. You guessed it – kiss them (sure it will take some imagination) on all of those places, with the ice in your mouth.  This is great in places like their ear lobe, their neck, their chest, their thighs… you can use your imagination. You may or may not want to have your partner close their eyes or maybe use a blindfold – the anticipation of what you will do next can heighten the sensations.
  • Find another piece of ice that will fit in your mouth – and kiss your partner, if you’re really creative, pass the piece of ice back and forth to each other. As you do this, the ice cube will get smaller and smaller. Any sort of tongue play that you want to do with your partner with the ice cube, is encouraged. You can enjoy playing with each other with the ice and also the warm and cold areas of your mouth as you play.
  • One or both of you can pick up a piece of ice and use it on each other’s breasts – circle the breast, run the ice under the woman’s breast, work your way to the nipple, tease the nipples and watch them getting harder and larger as your play and after a sufficient amount of anticipation, rub the ice cube over the nipples – then it’s wonderful to suck and lick the water off. This can work on either partner, depending on the sensitivity of your nipples, although women may enjoy it more. But don’t ignore his nipples – some men have very sensitive nipples, so never ignore them. If you decide to do this with each other, you can sit facing each other – this will let you tantalize each other while you are being turned on.
  • Do you enjoy mammary sex? If so – that can be a great follow up to the last idea. Let your man play with your breasts with the ice and get them good and wet, then have him move closer so that he can slide his penis between your breasts. You can push your breasts together to heighten the sensation for both of you – or you may choose to lower your mouth to take his penis into your mouth while he slides between your breasts.
  • Use ice cubes with oral sex. This works for men or women, but a quick warning for women – if you are really sensitive, you should have your partner go down on your while you keep your underpants on. If you can tolerate the cold, your partner can take them off – with their hands or teeth, we’ll leave that up to you J Whether your partner is a man or a woman – you can alternate your mouth and your hands, with or without the ice. You can use your mouth on your partner and use ice in your hands or put the ice in your mouth while giving your partner oral sex. Get creative and watch your partner’s reactions – or ask which they like better and do that again. Remember that a combination of cool mouth, warm mouth, warm hand and hand with ice – variety is stimulating and anticipating what you will do next.
  • How could I forget – whether you use the ice during oral sex with your woman or not — consider sliding a piece or two inside her before you have sex with her – it will provide a cool sensation in contrast to her warm body. This will give her a cool sensation along with her man’s penis inside of her or if you want to play with a favorite sex toy with her.
  • Bottom line – get creative. You can use a piece of ice in any number of ways and places with your lover — the most important thing to remember, have fun!
  • For much more information about sex toys, check out my interview with Tamara Bell, Pleasure Party Planner and Love Coach –

Another thing to consider – do you want to feel of ice with the cooler temperature, but want to avoid the mess of melting ice? Check out my review for a glass sex toy. You can put this in the refrigerator or freezer to cool them down and use them with your partner or on your own. It also works to warm things up, if you put it in warm water for a little while. There is much more information here –

Those are my ideas – what do you recommend?

Sacred Relationships – What Are They

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I found this article this morning and I really like the description of sacred relationships.

Have you wondered if you’re strange if the usual definition of love doesn’t seem really appealing? Do the usual “loving” relationships make you feel something is missing in your life? Maybe you want a loving caring relationship, but what other people have, doesn’t seem like the “end all, be all” that society claims it is supposed to be.

Take a look at this article and the explanation of a “sacred relationship” and feel free to leave a comment. I only shared the key bullet points from the article. If you want to know more, the link to the full article is at the bottom of the post.


The new forms of partnership are very different. They are based on different criteria and needs, and are played out in different ways:

#1 Soul Resonance rather than Physical Attraction

People will be attracted to each other on the multi-dimensional or soul level, rather than the physical.

#2 People in sacred relationships operate from the heart

But there will be an “allowing” and a freedom that will enable each partner to grow and to blossom into their full potential within the relationship.

#3 Equality in the Partnership – Keeping the Balance

If one partner dominates or controls the other, then an imbalance is created that will undermine the relationship.

#4 Empowerment over disempowerment in sacred relationships

In sacred relationships..

.. each partner consciously watches to ensure that they are neither disempowered nor that they disempower the other. Rather, they look for ways of empowering themselves and their partner in positive ways.

#5 No emotional neediness, no seeking for approval

There is no emotional neediness or fear, just acceptance and love.

#6 Letting go when it is needed

And, if the relationship reaches its end, then there must be a willingness to let go, and not be attached to that particular relationship.

#7 Allowing the Full Spectrum of Feelings

Multi-dimensional relationships will always play through the full spectrum of feelings – not only the positive ones.

#8 Communicate

But where two people are constantly communicating, they are expressing themselves and discovering themselves through what they express.

#9 Co-Create

But, in order for a sacred relationship to flourish, there must be a place for all that wonderful higher frequency creativity to find expression on the physical level.


Curious and want to know more?

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Cry of the Nightbird Writers Against Domestic Violence on Ready for Love Radio

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In this podcast we will tackle domestic violence and discuss the Cry of the Nightbird: Writers Against Domestic Violence with the editor Michelle Wing. She is the founder of the Changing Hurt to Hope: Writers Speak Out Against Domestic Violence program, affiliated with YWCA Sonoma County in California.

Domestic violence and sexual violence are a couple of topics we tackled before on Ready for Love radio – and in this podcast we will discuss some different red flags and suggestions for people who are in a domestic violence situation or have friends or family members being effected. Michelle will also share some very important suggestions about things you should NOT do when you have friends or family in a domestic violence situation. And – we will share an idea that we both found to be very helpful in starting to recover from domestic and/or sexual violence situations and it ties in beautifully with her book. We look forward to having you with us Thursday night.

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Cry of the Nightbird-writers against domestic violenceAbout Cry of the Nightbird – 

In Cry of the Nightbird: Writers Against Domestic Violence, thirty-eight writers speak out in more than fifty prose and poetry pieces of a hidden tragedy: violence in homes, living in fear, and forced silence. Authors from every walk of life and every aspect of this difficult issue raise their voices as one to end this silence, to bring freedom and release for themselves and others. These words will inform and inspire readers: give them eyes to see, a way to express, and motivation to act. Cry of the Nightbird just placed as a finalist in both the Next Generation Indie Book Awards and the National Indie Excellence Awards in the Women’s Issues category.

About Michelle Wing – 

Michelle Wing is a writer of poetry and creative nonfiction. She is the author of Body on the Wall (poems), and editor of Cry of the Nightbird: Writers Against Domestic Violence. She is the founder of the Michelle portrait-300 dpiChanging Hurt to Hope: Writers Speak Out Against Domestic Violence program, affiliated with YWCA Sonoma County in California. She also created and co-facilitated a six month journaling and creativity workshop for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault, sponsored by the YWCA and the Sonoma County Family Justice Center. Her poetry on survivorship has appeared in special exhibits at the California Museum in Sacramento, and as part of a traveling exhibit, which is currently ongoing. Her poems and essays have been published in Rain and Thunder, Melancholy Hyperbole, Sinister Wisdom, The Gay & Lesbian Review, and numerous anthologies. Michelle is the founder and host of Books on Stage, a reading series in Cloverdale, and writes a monthly lit column, Off the Page, for Sonoma West newspapers. She is aided in all her endeavors by her service dog, Ripley.