The G-spot for men and women is a touchy subject for some people – but the level of pleasure that can be derived from finding and stimulating it is definitely worth the effort.
There has been a lot of media coverage lately about whether the female G-spot exists. My friend and mentor Dr Ava Cadell was interviewed for an article on ABCNews.com about the female G-spot (If you would like to read that article, click this link.)
The reason I mentioned the local media coverage about whether the female G-Spot exists is because I got an interesting idea tonight. And, people who know me, know that interesting ideas usual prompt me to write a blog post 🙂
There is a recent study that claims women do not have a G-spot. I personally think that is wrong. Okay, maybe many women haven’t found their G-Spot and some may not even care to find it. Here is my question – do the “experts” think that men have a G-Spot? Ah, now if the experts were convinced men have a spot that causes much more intense and satisfying orgasms – I bet they would spend a fortune studying this. Can you imagine the line of volunteers to participate.
I believe men do have a spot that is very similar to the female G-Spot, but for some people it can be very hard to find. You may wonder why its so hard to find. That is because of where its located…. it is in the anus – not far inside, but inside. That’s right – someone has to insert their finger into your anus to find this spot. Now you’re starting to understand the title of this blog aren’t you?
This picture is a little “busy” – but it shows the way to find the male G-Spot. Someone simply slides a finger or two into the anus and crook the finger in a “come here” motion. It is good to lubricate the finger first and some people prefer to wear gloves or a finger cot. It is also great if the man thoroughly cleans the area before trying this.
A friend mentioned that he would like to try this with someone since he hadn’t tried it yet. I know he’s seeing a couple of women, so I asked if he had mentioned this to them. His answer was “no – they will do it if they want to.” I had to disagree with that comment and its one of the reasons I’m writing this post.
How many women out there in the blogosphere would be hesitant to mention this to their man or to slid a finger in? So, I asked my friend if he had done this to women he had been with – his answer was “yes”. My next comment was that the next time he is playing with his finger(s) in her butt, he could say something like, “I’d love for you to do that to me.” I also suggested that he should say that to the more adventurous woman 🙂
I know that some people have issues with anything being inserted into their anus and that is their prerogative. I’m just mentioning and explaining this for people who would like to try something new – that can be very satisfying.
I recently completed the G-Spot certification course (home study course) through Loveology University and there is a section in that class about the male G-Spot. I’ll share a few things from the class and the link for more info.
I’ve heard many people in the media and on several segments of The View complain that saying there is a G-Spot is causing unnecessary stress and pressure for men and women to find the G-Spot. I have a couple of comments about that –
1 – if people want to look or feel for it, they should have the information
2 – just like anything in life, not everyone is the same, so why not at least try to see if you can locate it
3 – it can be an incredible orgasm and well worth the effort to find it
4 – even if you don’t find the right spot right away, you and your lover will learn more about your body and could definitely find new ways to satisfy you.
The Male G-Spot – some details: (excerpts from G-Spot Certification Course from Loveology University)
Men have a G-spot too. It is the prostate gland, which can be excited by massage to arouse your lover to new levels of intimate pleasure since the area of the anus is surrounded with sensitive nerve endings.
One reason it is called the ‘Hero spot’ is because it takes a hero to be adventurous, secure in his masculinity and trusting with his partner in order to embark on Hero Spot exploration. Others refer to it as the male G-spot because the intensity of the orgasm is similar to what a woman feels.
The male prostate is deeper and resides at the neck of the bladder and that is where a valve dictates if the man is going to ejaculate or urinate. It is important to know that men cannot come and go at the same time.
The prostate can be effectively stimulated by the insertion of a finger or vibrator into your lover’s anus. Women with short fingers may not be able to get to it, in which case a G-spot vibrator for women works just as well for men.
1.Lubricate your finger or vibrator and insert palm up, in a “come hither” motion inside his anus. Once you feel the sensation of pushing against a walnut-sized lump, you have reached the prostate or male G-spot.
2.Apply a light pressure either tapping, rubbing or stroking towards the perineum (the landing strip between the anus and the testicles) to create pleasurable sensations for him.
3. Ask your lover what feels best. Some men say their pleasure zone is just one knuckle inside the anus; others are deeper. Levels of pleasurable response vary with each individual.
Be sure to ask your lover how he likes to be stroked, including what kind of pressure and motions feel best.
Once you get comfortable with this – you can give your man a bigasm – he will absolutely love that. Imagine his satisfaction if you are stimulating 2 erogenous zones on his body at the same time and he reaches orgasm. Its mind blowing and the full instructions are in the course 🙂 Actually, instructions for the male and the female trigasm are in the course…..
Any thoughts or experiences you would like to share?