The Male G-Spot – Have You Found It Yet

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The G-spot for men and women is a touchy subject for some people – but the level of pleasure that can be derived from finding and stimulating it is definitely worth the effort.

There has been a lot of media coverage lately about whether the female G-spot exists. My friend and mentor Dr Ava Cadell was interviewed for an article on about the female G-spot (If you would like to read that article, click this link.)

The reason I mentioned the local media coverage about whether the female G-Spot exists is because I got an interesting idea tonight. And, people who know me, know that interesting ideas usual prompt me to write a blog post 🙂

There is a recent study that claims women do not have a G-spot. I personally think that is wrong. Okay, maybe many women haven’t found their G-Spot and some may not even care to find it. Here is my question – do the “experts” think that men have a G-Spot? Ah, now if the experts were convinced men have a spot that causes much more intense and satisfying orgasms – I bet they would spend a fortune studying this. Can you imagine the line of volunteers to participate.

I believe men do have a spot that is very similar to the female G-Spot, but for some people it can be very hard to find. You may wonder why its so hard to find. That is because of where its located…. it is in the anus – not far inside, but inside. That’s right – someone has to insert their finger into your anus to find this spot. Now you’re starting to understand the title of this blog aren’t you?


This picture is a little “busy” – but it shows the way to find the male G-Spot. Someone simply slides a finger or two into the anus and crook the finger in a “come here” motion. It is good to lubricate the finger first and some people prefer to wear gloves or a finger cot. It is also great if the man thoroughly cleans the area before trying this.

A friend mentioned that he would like to try this with someone since he hadn’t tried it yet. I know he’s seeing a couple of women, so I asked if he had mentioned this to them. His answer was “no – they will do it if they want to.” I had to disagree with that comment and its one of the reasons I’m writing this post.

How many women out there in the blogosphere would be hesitant to mention this to their man or to slid a finger in? So, I asked my friend if he had done this to women he had been with – his answer was “yes”. My next comment was that the next time he is playing with his finger(s) in her butt, he could say something like, “I’d love for you to do that to me.” I also suggested that he should say that to the more adventurous woman 🙂

I know that some people have issues with anything being inserted into their anus and that is their prerogative. I’m just mentioning and explaining this for people who would like to try something new – that can be very satisfying.

I recently completed the G-Spot certification course (home study course) through Loveology University and there is a section in that class about the male G-Spot. I’ll share a few things from the class and the link for more info.

I’ve heard many people in the media and on several segments of The View complain that saying there is a G-Spot is causing unnecessary stress and pressure for men and women to find the G-Spot. I have a couple of comments about that –

1 – if people want to look or feel for it, they should have the information

2 – just like anything in life, not everyone is the same, so why not at least try to see if you can locate it

3 – it can be an incredible orgasm and well worth the effort to find it

4 – even if you don’t find the right spot right away, you and your lover will learn more about your body and could definitely find new ways to satisfy you.

The Male G-Spot – some details: (excerpts from G-Spot Certification Course from Loveology University)

Men have a G-spot too. It is the prostate gland, which can be excited by massage to arouse your lover to new levels of intimate pleasure since the area of the anus is surrounded with sensitive nerve endings.

One reason it is called the ‘Hero spot’ is because it takes a hero to be adventurous, secure in his masculinity and trusting with his partner in order to embark on Hero Spot exploration. Others refer to it as the male G-spot because the intensity of the orgasm is similar to what a woman feels.

The male prostate is deeper and resides at the neck of the bladder and that is where a valve dictates if the man is going to ejaculate or urinate. It is important to know that men cannot come and go at the same time.

The prostate can be effectively stimulated by the insertion of a finger or vibrator into your lover’s anus. Women with short fingers may not be able to get to it, in which case a G-spot vibrator for women works just as well for men.

1.Lubricate your finger or vibrator and insert palm up, in a “come hither” motion inside his anus. Once you feel the sensation of pushing against a walnut-sized lump, you have reached the prostate or male G-spot.
2.Apply a light pressure either tapping, rubbing or stroking towards the perineum (the landing strip between the anus and the testicles) to create pleasurable sensations for him.

3. Ask your lover what feels best. Some men say their pleasure zone is just one knuckle inside the anus; others are deeper. Levels of pleasurable response vary with each individual.

Be sure to ask your lover how he likes to be stroked, including what kind of pressure and motions feel best.

Once you get comfortable with this – you can give your man a bigasm – he will absolutely love that. Imagine his satisfaction if you are stimulating 2 erogenous zones on his body at the same time and he reaches orgasm. Its mind blowing and the full instructions are in the course 🙂 Actually, instructions for the male and the female trigasm are in the course…..

Any thoughts or experiences you would like to share?

Maggie Bain, Author of Love on the Rock

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Join us for an interesting variety of topics – included in the video and much more. Let’s have a direct conversation about how to deepen the intimacy in your relationship. Is the spark gone or dying out? Do you want more love and passion?

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Master the Perfect Kiss and Give Your Partner a Great Gift

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For many years, guys and gals growing up getting their sex cues from Hollywood romances didn’t have a clue about how to kiss. That changed with more realistic kisses coming to the movies, but now the pendulum has gone beyond that point with most movie kisses looking like the two combatants are consuming each other for lunch.

This has caused more than a few folks to fail to understand how a kiss should work, and what methods might be employed to arouse the ardor in a lover with a simple kiss.

Unlike today’s movies, you shouldn’t jump into your lover’s mouth like a high-speed chase through a tunnel. Instead, build her anticipation by kissing all around her face. Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.

First, kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath. Only after this initial modest kiss should you start to get serious, and only when your lover indicates that she’s ready for more (usually by using her tongue or by opening her mouth more widely to invite your tongue in).

From this point, there are a variety of ways you can continue this interplay:

  • Take your lover’s bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.
  • Trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue.
  • While kissing, lick you lover’s teeth with your tongue.
  • To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.
  • Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately.
  • Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.
  • Kissing her eyelids and ears.

The key to success in all this is to go slowly, and to keep things modest especially with the first few kisses. Be sure to follow your lover’s kissing techniques and emulate them. Little by little the two of you will learn what works best.

Then put your knowledge to good use, bringing her slowly closer to consummating your encounter.

Self Confidence Makes You a Great Lover

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Love is a beautiful emotion, a gift given to a chosen few. Not everybody get lots of love in his or her lifetime. However, many times lovers mess it up and don’t appreciate the gift they were given. They are unable to meet each other’s expectations by growing too possessive, by being too shy, by being unnecessarily skeptical and on and on!

Most of the time, the culprit is within ourselves. It makes us perceive things, especially potential problems, as being much bigger than they actually are and makes us overreact to events that could have been easily avoided. We find it is much easier to tear something down, than to build something – especially when it comes to the matters of the heart. An ignorant and careless person is vulnerable to losing a lot, including his or her life partner. Read on for information about simple things that will keep you from hurting your partner and keep your love life blossoming.  Here are some habits of self-confident lovers.

Are Not Jealous

If you are jealous of your partner, this is a sure indication that the foundations of love are not deep enough to withstand the wear and tear of time. Self confident lovers consider their partners as an extension of their own selves and feel happy if somebody has something good to say about their partners.

There is no “yours” or “mine” in their relationship. It’s always “ours,” which forms the basis of their love. Most people get embarrassed, sceptical or annoyed when comments like this are made about their partner – “Your girl is so beautiful” or “Your boyfriend has a talent of impressing girls.” However, a confident man would say, “Yes. I know she is so beautiful and I’m very proud to be in love with her,” while a self-confident girl will shoot back – “Yes. He impressed me too!” Remember your individual qualities are a combined “quality pool” belonging to you both, and both partners must treat is as an asset. This is only possible when both of you are confident of each other’s love and commitment.

Are More Forgiving

Self-confident people are able to maintain a cool and calm composure in the times of crisis. They are able to analyze situations and to put themselves in their partner’s shoes. This allows them to see their partner’s viewpoint and understand their behavior. In many instances, our partner’s behavior annoys us. People who lack self-confidence will make us think negatively and to doubt ourselves or our partners. On the other hand, self-confident lovers believe in “forgive and forget” and can move on.

Make Your Partner More Secure and Comfortable

In a relationship, looks matter to a point, but the characteristics that matter even more are a sensible and rational nature, a sense of humor, the ability to handle tough situations and more. Self-confident lovers are a great place to look for these qualities. Their self confidence is contagious and they are often promising professionals as well. They enjoy respect and camaraderie, and nurture positive and constructive thoughts. They seem to have the ability to push away or resolve problems and provide for their family. A self-confident lover makes us feel secure, comfortable and makes life worth living!

Give Your Partner the Gift of Independence!

Sometimes instead of love liberating us, it actually binds us. If you have a possessive partner, they want to have all the details of our lives. Who do you work with? Who was that person who called at 7 am? Why do you want a personal car? Why do you wear makeup every time you go out? Why are you wearing that dress at this hour…and on and on!

Love, which can be the most beautiful emotion in our lives, will seem to fill us with hope and enthusiasm, but over time can drain out all the energy from us. You feel like you are strapped to someone, answerable to someone and tethered so you have limited mobility. Love can start to feel like bondage. Self-confident lovers understand the importance of independence. They let their partner fly and soar great heights, because they know at the end of the day, they will return to their partners’ arms.


Open Relationships with Rach Wilson on Ready for Love Radio

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Join your host and Love Coach Nikki Leigh for a discussion with Relationship Coach Rach Wilson. Ready for Love Radio airs weekly on Thursday nights, 6 pm Pacific/9 pm Eastern at If you miss the show Monday night, listen to the podcast below –

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People listening to the show will learn:

  • How real adult relationships work
  • What happens to people when they suppress their natural desires and needs
  • The key factors for relationships success
  • The key factors causing infidelity, depression, suicide that are easily reversed
  • What happens to relationships when partners are judgmental
  • How judgment is society’s cancer and how it’s affecting our ability to thrive
  • The problems common across all communities
  • How to reverse our judgmental society
  • What happens when sex isn’t an open topic
  • How to spice up your sex life
  • How to start opening up your sexual relationship to explore new things together
  • How to keep your relationship safe when exploring non-monogamy
  • What Intelligent Sex TV is and how to join in the movement


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Be the Strong Man a Woman Wants on Ready for Love Radio

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What do women want?

We tackle that age old question on Ready for Love RadioBeing the Strong Man a Woman Wants

  • Do women want a bad boy?
  • Do women want a nice guy?
  • Do women want to “rule the roost”?
  • Or – do they want a strong man who will take the lead, and be someone she can love and respect?

You will have to listen in to see what author, Elliott Katz has to say on the topic. Stick around to the end, and I’ll share the first couple 8-10 pages of the book with you….

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Elliott KatzAbout Elliott Katz –

Elliott Katz is a professional speechwriter in Toronto and the author of seven nonfiction books.

After the end of a relationship, Elliott Katz sought to learn about being a man in a relationship. He found books on marriage and relationships said little to him. He found powerful timeless insights in the lessons that fathers and other older male role models taught younger men. People started seeking his advice and would say, “Why didn’t someone tell me this before?”

Moving beyond the trendy ideas about a man’s role – that just don’t seem to work – Elliott Katz shares insights on being a man that have withstood the test of time. Interestingly, these insights are the traits that he heard many women complain were lacking in men today – showing leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility.

From Adventurer Alone in Alaska to Cosmo Bachelor on Ready for Love Radio

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On this podcast I am going to introduce you to an adventurer and scientist who spent 18 months alone in Alaska. We talk about his adventure in the wilds of Alaska and the wild adventures he found when he got back to civilization… This is the message he sent to entice me to have him as a guest on Ready for Love Radio

While living on a wilderness island in the Inside Passage of Alaska for years in isolation, studying
Michael-Modzelewski the wildlife (no female companionship), I wrote my first book, INSIDE PASSAGE: LIVING WITH BALD EAGLES, KILLER WHALES AND KWAKIUTL INDIANS. It was published by HarperCollins in NYC. Unbeknownst to me, Cosmopolitan Magazine, the best-selling women’s magazine in the world (in 100 countries; translated into 87 languages) chose me as one of their “Bachelors of The Month” and eventually “Man of The Year.” At the same time, AlaskaMen Magazine made me their centerfold story (I got a staple in my navel but got to keep my parka on : ) I went from famine to feast — from no dates in the Alaska wilderness to 5,000 letters from women around the world. I dated many, and that is how I eventually met my wife. It’s Everyman’s Fantasy with a Happy Ending.

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10 Reasons to Kiss Your Partner….

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Ten Reasons to Kiss Your Mate  

  1. Kissing lowers stress.
  2. Kissing burns calories.
  3. Kissing helps you look younger.
  4. Kissing can lift your spirits.
  5. Kissing is meditative.
  6. Kissing strengthens your marriage.
  7. Kissing builds desire.
  8. Kissing releases Oxytocin
  9. Kissing is free.
  10. 10. Kissing increases love and passion in your marriage.

Senior Citizens Get Health Benefits From Active Sex Life

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An active sex life into your 60’s and beyond can benefit your overall health. There are plenty of statistics which show this can encourage a person to live a very healthy lifestyle. For many people, they will be more concerned about their overall appearance and they eat better and exercise more.

Many individuals engaging in sex when they are over 60 are also more concerned with their overall health. This means they are willing to keep their appointments for annual check ups. They also do what the doctor recommends in regards to taking medications and to making changes to their daily habits.

The topic has become more of an issue in our society due to people living longer than ever before. For many people, life doesn’t end when they retire as it is only beginning. They can pursue new interests and they can enjoy having an active sex life. For most people at this age and older, there is no reason not to continue experimenting with sex and having a great time.

It can be a time to get to know your body in new ways. You may find sex is different at this age though. It may not occur as often and it may not last as long from start to finish. Yet there are still plenty of ways to please your partner and to make the most of it. It is always good to communicate what makes you feel good to your partner so you get all you can out of your sexual experiences.

Having a healthy lifestyle is very important for people of any age. As you get older it becomes even more important. You can make sure sexual activity continues to be a great part of life at any age. It is great to eliminate the use of tobacco and alcohol from your lifestyle. You should also eat right, get plenty of rest, and exercise regularly.

Many people in their 60’s will tell you that continuing to have sex makes them feel younger. This carries over into many other aspects of their life as well. They feel better physically and mentally. They also find they are able to maintain a very healthy and intimate relationship with that special person in their life.

In our society, it has become more socially acceptable for people to have active sex lives later in life. In the past it was deemed gross or even out of line for people of such age to think about sex. So, they kept their thoughts and activities private. Today they are able to explore and share without feeling guilty or feeling like they are being judged.

It is believed that a positive attitude about sex and realizing it is natural to want to continue having sex when you are older plays a vital role in your life. The people who don’t question their desire for sexual activity into their 60’s can relax and enjoy it. They won’t be inhibited by their age or what is going on around them.

Maintain Your Sex Life as You Age

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Many people begin to worry about how to maintain their sex drive over 60. This can vary depending on the sex life they have had earlier in life. However, some people and especially women may feel more sexually free and enjoy sex more after menopause.

Sex is a satisfying part of most couple’s lifestyle and not something they want to lose. It is normal for a person’s sex drive to diminish as they get older. Specifically, those over 60 may find it is harder to get into the mood or to get their body to respond physically the way they want it to. Let’s share some tips that can help you and your partner – or feel free to share with friends or family who can benefit.

There are things you can do to help maintain your sex drive as you get older. Living a healthy lifestyle is going to have a significant impact for you so don’t blow it off. What you choose to do today is going to affect your health and your level of sexual desire as you get older.

Eating a well balanced diet is something you should incorporate into your life. If you aren’t doing it now, then start to make some small changes. As time goes on you will adjust to these changes and they will become second nature to you. Consuming too much caffeine can be a problem. If you aren’t getting all the vitamins and nutrients you need from food, you should take a quality supplement.

Make sure you take the time to exercise at least 30 minutes each day as well. Walking is very common for older individuals – it is low impact but very good for the body. Get a companion such as a friend or a dog that you can walk with each day. Some malls and other locations have indoor walking clubs which are perfect when the weather turns cold.

Maintaining a healthy weight is very important for your sex drive. The combination of a good diet with plenty of exercise will help you in this area. It also helps you feel great about how you look. Too many people are inhibited about sex as their body has changed from what it once was. That is going to be a fact of life for all of us.

Being happy with your body is important. Too many people start to notice all the small flaws as they get older. They will see every line and wrinkle on their body so they aren’t comfortable during sex. They don’t have self confidence that they are still desirable. They aren’t able to let go and enjoy what is taking place because they are too focused on such details.

Reducing the amount of stress in your life is important at all ages, but especially as you get older too. The toll it can take on both your body and your mind is more than most of us realize. Most people cannot be worry free as they get older. If your finances or relationships aren’t in the best shape, it can be hard to get past. But, do your best to reduce as much stress from your life as you can. It will help you in many ways and it will certainly help your sex drive because you won’t be preoccupied with other things.

If you are healthy as you get older, you will find it easier to maintain your sex drive and your sex life. Both men and women have the ability to be turned on sexually until a very late age in life. Men and women both have the ability to continue having orgasms into those later years as well. It all comes down to how fit a person is physically and mentally.

Age is merely a number though as anyone over 60 can tell you. Many of them continue to enjoy a sex life that is as wonderful as people in their 40s. It is something you can strive for in your own life as well. Make sure you are making healthy choices today so you won’t have too many issues that reduce your sex drive as you get older.