8 Quick Ways to Relax Before a Big Date

So you haven’t been out on a date in awhile and you’re nervous that you’ll do or say the wrong thing. Or perhaps your last date was such a disaster that it should have had a rating 5 on the weather channel. Getting nervous before a date is understandable. Will they be attracted to you? Are you both on the same wavelength? Will you be able to control your mouth from saying something your brain knows is stupid?

Mistakes usually occur when stress levels are high. And lets face it dating is a stressful endeavour. The best thing you can do before a date isrelaxI know that is easier said than done but here are 8 easy ways to chillout before your dates arrives so that you actually have a good time on your date without any jittery mis-steps.

  1. Meditate or if that sounds too mystical just close your eyes and focus on your breathing, feel it as it goes in and feel it go out. Can you feel it flow through your nostrils into your lungs? Does your stomach expand too? If it does then you know your breathing deeply and you’ll get the most benefit from the activity. See if you can focus on the pause between breaths and that between an inhale and an exhale. Do it for 5 minutes or do it for 20 – the length is not as important as your focus during this time.
  2. Sing. Really loudly. Obviously this isn’t going to work in an office but it’s great in the car, especially at night if you’re worried about other people looking at you oddly.
  3. Stretch. Try standing with your feet hip width apart and then take a deep breath, rise up onto your toes and reach up to the ceiling with your fingertips. Hold for as long as you can. And then slowly release your breath, your arms and finally put your heels back on the ground.
  4. Go for a walk even if it’s just around the office or your living room. Or you could walk to the mailbox or do 6 starjumps or put on some dancing music. Anything to get your body moving and those endorphins flowing.
  5. Give yourself a quick massage – your feet or hands are good places to start for a quick treat. Keep some hand cream or body lotion at your desk or in your bedside table and you’ll always be ready to treat yourself. And take your time – afterall YOU know the bits you like.
  6. Connect with your inner child – Do a handstand or a cartwheel – this isn’t going to work indoors but if you’re wearing trousers there’s no reason why you can’t do it in the park on your way to meet your date. And while you’re there have a go on the slide too (not a good option if you’re wearing white and its probably a good idea to make sure the ramp is clean before you slide).
  7. Go somewhere private and be as unbelievably angry as you possibly can and try to stay angry – you’ll find that 9 times out of 10 you won’t be able to sustain it. The idea is not to get all worked up and then go and spray your anger at your date. It’s about getting it all out and then dealing with whatever situation needs addressing. In order to do this you need to make sure that you don’t leave your private space until you feel like your anger has all gone. We hear so much about anger management when it’s not really about managing it, but rather letting it out. Just remember the golden rule: its OK to get angry but its not OK to take it out on someone or something else.
  8. Read fiction – almost everyone agrees that fiction is a wonderful escape from the day to day. There’s nothing quite like stepping out of your own life and into the lives of the characters in a good story. And a good short story is just the thing for a 15 minute chillout session. Don’t know where to start? Check out www.espressofiction.comfor some cool fiction that can be sent to you by email each week.

Hope these tips work for you on your next date. You might even find you enjoy it!

5 Great Tips On How To Get Girls

Among the many emotions that man was destined to experience, it seems that love is the best emotions ever created.

No wonder why many people are wishing to find their own true love to be happy and live a life that is full of contentment and satisfactions in spite of the many trials that life has to offer.

According to some surveys, most of the people would want to marry some day, that is why each of them are willing to go out on dates. In the U.S. alone, nearly 53% said that they have dated more than one person at the same time.

However, the concept boils down to the fact that even if dating seems to be the ideal ways to start develop a great relationship founded on true love, still it cannot be directly concluded that the activity is relatively easy.

Take for example the idea of getting a girl. Many boys are having a hard time finding the best strategy to get girls. This is because many boys also have their own fears, especially the fear of rejection.

So for those who want to know how to get a girl and ask her on a date, here are five ways that will surely make you get one and have fun:

1. Create a dazzling personality

According to some statistical reports, almost 30% of the adult population in the U.S. who are engaged into dating activities stated that the most important attribute that they are looking for in a guy is the personality. That is why most girls insist that the looks are not that important, what matters most is the personality of the person.

So if you really want to succeed in getting a girl, try to create an impression first that you have the best personality in the world. This can be projected through your sense of humor, confidence, and the way you carry the conversation with wit.

2. Be cool

The key to getting a girl should not project an air of desperation. Even if you have not dated a girl yet, try to be cool and create an impression that you want to get the girl because you like her and not because you are in desperate need of a partner.

3. Be ready for rejections

The problem with most people, especially guys, is that they have too high expectations when it comes to dating and relationships. In fact, almost 62% of those who are into dating have asserted that the peoples probabilities and expectations are very high these days.

Hence, it is a must that people must learn how to face rejections, especially men, so that getting girls would be easier. Keep in mind that girls can still say no even if you have the best car, good looks, and dazzling personality.

If in case you were not able to get the girl that you want, try to reflect what might have been the cause why she had rejected you. Also, there are still other girls out there that you can turn to, so do not be despaired

4. Consider the No 

There are many cases wherein a girl might say no for two possible reasons: one is that she does not like you, and the second reason is that she wants to go out with you but not tonight. These are two different situations that must be clearly understood.

The problem with some guys is that they take it personally whenever they receive some forms of rejections. So it is better to analyze the situation and the intention of the girl by saying NO.

5. Be casual

The best way to get a girl is to make her feel that the date would be very casual and would not necessarily involve a conventional date or anything that would imply romantic involvement.

What matters most is for the girl to enjoy her time with you such that if both of you stand a chance of having a good relationship in the future, the memory of your first date should have been vested on good recall.

The bottom line is that guys should never make the girls feel pressured in saying yes every time they are being asked to go out. What matters most in getting a girl is to make it sure that the person concerned will be comfortable and would feel that she will be in good hands.

6 Tips For Safe Online Dating

There is no doubt that online dating can put you in touch with some great people and you may just end up finding your Prince Charming or Dream Girl as the case may be. However, online dating is not without its risks. This is why I have put together these online dating safety tips which will help you to have a fun experience, while keeping yourself out of harms way.

  1. Your safety lesson in online dating starts from your profile itself. Make sure not to reveal exact personal details (real name, telephone numbers, street addresses etc) in your profile for everyone to see. For the first few weeks you should communicate with other daters only through the message system that is available on the sites. This personal messaging system keeps your name and contact details anonymous so that you can get to know the other person without revealing your true identity. Once you feel you know someone well enough, you can then disclose your personal details and also set up a date. And in case you do end up communicating with someone who turns out to be a creep (they are unfortunately unavoidable), your real identity will be protected.
  2. Once you do set up a date with an online friend, always ensure that you do not ask them to come over to your home on the first date itself. No, you should not even have them pick you up at home. Instead, arrange to meet up at the designated spot.
  3. If you have a friend who is also into online dating, you could get together with your friend and have a double date. This way, you won’t be alone when you meet your online friend, and you will also have someone to get away with in case your date turns out to be a bore!
  4. Never ever agree to have your first date in a private or secluded spot. You may think that this is very basic advice, but you’ll be amazed (perhaps shocked may be a better word!) to know that countless people still make this mistake and end up in prospectively dangerous situations. You should pick an open and public place for your date; say a restaurant, the park, etc. If you do decide to go to another place with your date, do not get into the car with them. Take your own vehicle or call and ask a friend to take you there. Yes, all this may seem like too much trouble, but better to be safe than sorry!
  5. Avoid drinking alcohol on your first date. If you must, make sure you have just a couple of drinks and no more. Ask the waiter or the bar tender to serve you. If you have left the drink for any reason, perhaps to visit the rest room, do not have the same drink when you do return.
  6. Before you leave for your date, make sure a friend or relative knows where you are going and when to expect you back. If something untoward does happen, you at least know that someone will be out looking for you.

Thus, by keeping these online dating safety tips in mind, you can rest easy that you are doing all you can to protect yourself. And with that worry off your mind, you are free to go out and have a whale of a time with your new online date!

Paying More Attention to Your Woman

Communication is such an important factor in all relationships, business and personal alike, that it should come as no surprise that we need to discuss it here as well. What is communication, after all? It is the two-way interaction that occurs, both verbally and non-verbally. What is said with actions is as important, if not more so, than what is said with words. But here we’re going to focus our attention on the importance of verbal communication and what it will mean for your relationship. Keep in mind that when I talk about how things affect your relationship, I’m mainly concerned with your success in the realm of seduction.

Communication with words is something we all do on a daily basis. But, just like when you’re asked to give an impromptu speech, being asked to communicate in a particular situation just makes many of you cringe, lock up, and find yourself at a loss for words. Why? Mainly because when you have to think about what to say, you suddenly become concerned about what you’re saying. But if you just let it happen without any expectations, somehow everything works out a whole lot better.

That being said, think of your past relationships and where communication failed you. Was it something you said in a particular conversation that you came to regret later? Or was it something she said that you either treated as unimportant or simply didn’t hear at all? Or could it have been a time when you should have said something to her, but didn’t, and the results were equally regrettable? Surely all of these have happened to nearly everyone at one time or another. The trick is to not let these past failures define how you communicate now and in the future of your current relationship.

Talking is something we all think about when we hear the word ‘communication’. But, unfortunately, that first thought is the wrong one if you’re looking for a good relationship with potential for romance. Talking will get you nowhere, and worse, it may cause things to fall backward or even to fall apart. When you talk, you’re expecting someone else to listen.

But what about the listener? When does she get the chance to be heard? That’s why it’s so much better to change your view from one of simply talking, to one where you see communication as the carrying on of a conversation.

5 Tips for getting Dozens of Dates Online

Are you tired of not getting any dates? The club and bar scene has dried up and isnt the best place to meet women. People have the tendency to lie and drink too much in clubs. Make no mistake about it, right now online dating is where the dating world is. Meeting dates online have a lot of benefits.

Its easy practice, even if you are shy

Instead of being judged by your looks, you will judged by your profile and personality

If you meet someone who is annoying, you can just log off

You can check up to 200 profiles in a half hour, all possibilities

Its a lot easier to get to know people when you cant see them

Dont worry, the online dating scene isnt just for losers and middle aged men anymore. In fact, recent reports have shown that the major dating sites are approximately 60-70% women.

So is it possible to meet an attractive mate online? Absolutely but you have to follow the right steps or you will just end up wasting your money on web. Here are some tips to land yourself a date tonight.

  1. Pick the right website To pay for a site or not? There are a lot of great free websites out there like Plenty Of Fish and Just Say Hi. The fact of the matter is, most pay websites will usually yield better results though.
  2. Write an effective personal ad No matter how you look, how old you are, or how much hair you have, THE most important part of online dating is your personal ad. If you can make a profile that is attractive you will have no problems meeting new people in no time. An effective profile will multiply the response you get. Keep it light and funny. Dont be negative or mention how desperate you are.
  3. Give compliments sparingly One thing that will turn people off quicker than anything else is if they feel that you are not being honest with them. If you give too many compliments, too quickly people will think that you have an ulterior motive. Dont make that mistake!
  4. Dont rush to meet up The great part about meeting people online is that you have the opportunity to get to know them before you meet them. The reality is that this is a dangerous world and while it isnt likely that you will meeting a psycho, it is always a possibility. Take your time and get to know you new love interest before you met them, it will also make you look less desperate.
  5. Dont Send too many messages If you send too many messages too soon you will come off as needy. No one wants someone who is too needy. When chatting online, you have the opportunity to take your time and think out your messages.

Good luck with all your new dates. Have fun with it.

4 Steps to Help Heal a Broken Heart

Heartbreak is a pain like any other. It is an emotional pain so bottomless that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have a pain like this one, all you want is for the deep ache to go away. As much as Id like to advise differently, there is no band aid for a broken heart. Though it sounds clich, time is the remedy needed for you to truly heal from such a deep, wrenching pain. In time, this pain will go away. Between now and then, however, following a few basic tips might be able to make the difference in how you are feeling.

  1. Cry: You are going to feel like rubbish for the first few weeks. Depending how emotional of a person you are, you may feel like crying for days. Go ahead. A significant change has occurred in your life; a painful change. There is no way to expect that you will feel a little sadness and be able to shut it off with a switch. Its just not that simple. Allow yourself to grieve for your loss. But not too long! Staying in the past for too long can only hurt you. See rule number 4.
  2. Talk to Someone Close: Use the shoulder of someone who cares about you to get out your feelings. This is a way to purify your soul by letting someone in to share your pain. Let them listen, comfort you, and offer advice. You dont necessarily have to take that advice, but sharing this comfort can make you feel better. Make sure you only allow yourself to grieve and lean on someone for a time because you need to move forward.
  3. Distract Yourself: Bring friends you care about back into your life. Maybe having the relationship was keeping you from spending time with your parents, or siblings. Maybe you hadnt talked to your best friend in weeks. Surround yourself with this support network. Getting things that need to be done around the house done is a great way to get lost in a project. Go to the gym. Organize your closet. Get out and take a walk. Distracting yourself is a great stepping stone to moving on with your life. This brings us to rule number 4.
  4. Look toward the Future; Forget the Past: Once you have allowed yourself the indulgence of grieving for a part of your life that is now past, look forward! There is a definite need to be able to start a new chapter in the book of your life. Now that you are past the sadness and anger, it is time for hope and renewal that will help you to move on. Take time out for yourself; get to know yourself as a single individual instead of as part of a couple. Replenish your soul by becoming you again.

Following these sometimes difficult, but necessary steps, you can begin to heal the broken pieces of your heart. You can not only become whole again, you can become whatever you wish to become. This is a chance to start fresh, and once the pain starts to ease, you will see it as such an opportunity.

7 Signs that she is a Fraud

If you are looking for love and marriage abroad, it is very simple to get it right, believe me! There are thousands of honest, sincere women who will be genuinely interested in YOU!

But after you are meeting a nice girl that seems to be right for you make sure the person you are talking to is FOR REAL.

Frankly, looking for a partner abroad is not any different than any other search – search for a house, a second-hand car, or whatsoever, in one simple yet important detail: there will always be people that will try to take advantage of you.

The perception that you have built about dating scams can make you be cautious and suspicious all the time! That is even worse. Chances are you will make the same mistakes as other guys and destroy what was a really good and honest relationship – just because of being paranoid about scammers.

But what if I tell you that there are some specific signs that can make you solve the enigma of sincerity in your relationship and find out that the person you were corresponding with is not who she said she is?

  1. Money is a key object to know a scam. At some point she begins to ask for money, frequently asking that it be transferred through wire services. She commonly states that the money is needed to help resolve a family tragedy or arrange for a trip to the United States. A copy of a fraudulent U.S. visa is sometimes attached to prove good intentions.  Beside this, there are other subtle signs that can make you be suspicious from the first e-mails she is sending you.
  2. The most prominent is the fact that scammers don’t really read your letters. They don’t remember what you have written – actually, they don’t relate to the content of your letters at all. They don’t answer your questions.
  3. Things move very fast, and she falls in love with you within 1-5 letters. Those letters she send to you could be sent to anybody: “her” letters are pure monologue that becomes more and more obsessed with “her love” to you and her desire to be together with you despite of everything that separates you.
  4. She doesn’t want to provide you with her phone number pretending that she doesn’t have a phone or that she didn’t speak English. Paper can bear anything, you know that. But even phone conversation can give you more clues of what’s really going on (though men usually tend to misinterpret subtle signs excusing them by the language barrier).
  5. Your name usually appears only once, or does not appear at all in the correspondence she is sending to you. She uses “darling”, “sweetheart”, “my love” and so on instead, because she is probably afraid not to mix the names of her victims or is sending the same messages to all of them only changing the names.
  6. She lets you know from the very beginning that she is a student or how little she earns, including the size of her salary even though you never asked about it. But she never asks about the state of your finances – neither uses the word “financially secure” in her description of the prospective partner.
  7. She writes you almost every day (keeps sending you photos even if you did not ask for) and in her letters she talks a lot about trust, honesty and sincerity. :)

So of course you must be aware of the fact that there are some individuals out there who may try to extract from you some amounts in cash, but remember that not all pretty girls you are meeting online are swindlers. Many men who were looking for a foreign wife, and met a wonderful girl without problems, are very surprised to find information about scams – they did not know that such a thing exists!

It is you who takes the choice and the risk.

Enjoy but don’t get fooled.

3 Tricks When Talking on the Phone with a Woman You Have Met Online

You have met an interesting woman online. You two had a great time chatting online and she decided to give you her phone number. Now you have to make her want to see you face to face, and the phone is your only tool.

The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.

1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.

2. DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.

A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don’t giving her enough credit and respect.

You know there’s trouble if you’re doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven’t hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn’t interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or “has to go”, leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won’t.

So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON’T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.

3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.

Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these “reasons” and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)

If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: “YES”.

Silicone Flexi Risque Ripples


Do you enjoy anal play or are you a person who I curious to experiment with anal pleasure? Then you should check out the Silicone Flexi Risque Ripples. This toy has some very nice features, including: a gradually increasing tip, various speeds and pulses for maximum pleasure – varying from soft and subtle to strong and steady, and a wide base for safe anal play.

The bottom of this toy is very flexible and moves independently, so you don’t have to worry that it will hurt you when you move and freedom of movement is important. The base is a larger than I like, but it is a very solid toy and looks long lasting. Also, it looks like you can enjoy vigorous play and it will be great. The graduated tip also helps the toy stay in place while you are playing and even if you decide to enjoy double penetration, the Flexi Risque will normally stay in place.

There is one thing that I didn’t like – the material this is made from is very smooth. That is normally a very good thing, but I found that made it difficult to screw the bottom on and off when you insert or change the batteries. But, that is a small thing. On another positive note – you can easily change from one vibration or pulse by pressing on the bottom of the toy.

If you’re looking for a toy that will go deep into your anus, you may want to look for something else since the insertable part of the probe is less than 4″. But it has a nice gradual slope and starts fairly small and gets bigger as it goes in deeper. The tip may be a little bit large for people who are just starting to enjoy anal play, but take your time and use plenty of lube and you can definitely enjoy this toy too.

Master Sexpert Tips -

  • Use plenty of lube (Moist Lube or Moist Gel is a great choice) for anal massage. You may prefer the gel since it is a thicker consistency, but you can try several types to see which is better for you. Click the product names for my reviews for each and a list of all the Moist varieties.
  • Be creative – this toy has a great shape and remember it will move with you and your partner, so don’t hesitate to move to get the most pleasure from it.
  • Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
  • If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
  • Ladies and men — if you’re using this on your lady or yourself, never use anything in the anus and then move to the vagina without thoroughly cleaning the toy.
  • Advanced Master Sexpert Tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy in your anus at the same time you use, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on the clitoris for the women. You can also use this toy in your anus, while having vaginal intercourse with a toy or with your partner.  A bigasm is also possible for men – slide this probe into your anus and stroke your penis or ask your partner to please you orally – at the same time. You will enjoy it

For more details – www.calexotics.com/p-23607-silicone-flexi-risque-ripples.aspx

  • Self-contained probes with intense vibrations at the tip
  • 10 powerful functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation
  • Flexible Silicone shaft bends and moves with you
  • EZ grip base
  • Smooth and soft satin finish
  • Silicone (shaft) ABS with PU Cote (base)
  • 3 AAA batteries
  • 4” x 1.5”/10.25 cm x 3.75 cm (overall Ripple)
  • 4.5” x 1.5”/11.5 cm x 3.75 cm (overall Triple)

 

 

Self Confidence Makes You a Great Lover

Love is a beautiful emotion, a gift given to a chosen few. Not everybody get lots of love in his or her lifetime. However, many times lovers mess it up and don’t appreciate the gift they were given. They are unable to meet each other’s expectations by growing too possessive, by being too shy, by being unnecessarily skeptical and on and on!

Most of the time, the culprit is within ourselves. It makes us perceive things, especially potential problems, as being much bigger than they actually are and makes us overreact to events that could have been easily avoided. We find it is much easier to tear something down, than to build something – especially when it comes to the matters of the heart. An ignorant and careless person is vulnerable to losing a lot, including his or her life partner. Read on for information about simple things that will keep you from hurting your partner and keep your love life blossoming.  Here are some habits of self-confident lovers.

Are Not Jealous

If you are jealous of your partner, this is a sure indication that the foundations of love are not deep enough to withstand the wear and tear of time. Self confident lovers consider their partners as an extension of their own selves and feel happy if somebody has something good to say about their partners.

There is no “yours” or “mine” in their relationship. It’s always “ours,” which forms the basis of their love. Most people get embarrassed, sceptical or annoyed when comments like this are made about their partner – “Your girl is so beautiful” or “Your boyfriend has a talent of impressing girls.” However, a confident man would say, “Yes. I know she is so beautiful and I’m very proud to be in love with her,” while a self-confident girl will shoot back – “Yes. He impressed me too!” Remember your individual qualities are a combined “quality pool” belonging to you both, and both partners must treat is as an asset. This is only possible when both of you are confident of each other’s love and commitment.

Are More Forgiving

Self-confident people are able to maintain a cool and calm composure in the times of crisis. They are able to analyze situations and to put themselves in their partner’s shoes. This allows them to see their partner’s viewpoint and understand their behavior. In many instances, our partner’s behavior annoys us. People who lack self-confidence will make us think negatively and to doubt ourselves or our partners. On the other hand, self-confident lovers believe in “forgive and forget” and can move on.

Make Your Partner More Secure and Comfortable

In a relationship, looks matter to a point, but the characteristics that matter even more are a sensible and rational nature, a sense of humor, the ability to handle tough situations and more. Self-confident lovers are a great place to look for these qualities. Their self confidence is contagious and they are often promising professionals as well. They enjoy respect and camaraderie, and nurture positive and constructive thoughts. They seem to have the ability to push away or resolve problems and provide for their family. A self-confident lover makes us feel secure, comfortable and makes life worth living!

Give Your Partner the Gift of Independence!

Sometimes instead of love liberating us, it actually binds us. If you have a possessive partner, they want to have all the details of our lives. Who do you work with? Who was that person who called at 7 am? Why do you want a personal car? Why do you wear makeup every time you go out? Why are you wearing that dress at this hour…and on and on!

Love, which can be the most beautiful emotion in our lives, will seem to fill us with hope and enthusiasm, but over time can drain out all the energy from us. You feel like you are strapped to someone, answerable to someone and tethered so you have limited mobility. Love can start to feel like bondage. Self-confident lovers understand the importance of independence. They let their partner fly and soar great heights, because they know at the end of the day, they will return to their partners’ arms.