A Successful Plan to Set and Reach Your Goals

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This is the time of year when so many people are talking about New Years resolutions. I’ve never really gotten excited about resolutions – mainly because very few people ever follow through on any meaningful resolutions.

However, I definitely think people should set and work to reach meaningful goals. We all know that it does take work to actually reach your goals. But it also takes a realistic strategy.

Here are some tips from Dr Phil on how to set and reach your goals –

Seven Steps to Reaching Your Goals

Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate set and reach your goalsthese seven steps for attaining each and every goal:

1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.

3. Assign a timeline to your goal.

4. Choose a goal you can control.

5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.

6. Define your goal in terms of steps.

7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.

For more details about each of these steps, visit http://drphil.com/articles/article/45/

If you’re serious about setting realistic goals that will benefit you personally and about reaching these goals, consider working with a coach. I’m a life and relationship coach and would love to help you determine the areas of your life that you can improve and setting a realistic plan to help you reach your goals. I don’t do the actual work for you – but help you make a meaningful and positive change in your life. I can be reached through the “contact” button on the right or through lovecoachjourney@gmail.com

 

 

 

4 Unique Ways to Get Out of The Doghouse with Your Girlfriend

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1. Hire a Mariachi Band or Local Acapella Group to Serenade Her

Unless she truly hates you, this will surely put a smile on her face and have her inviting you back into her comfort zone again.

Be sure to pick a humorous or joyful song; go for a sense of fun, not desperation.

2. Pay a Homeless Guy $5 to Hold Up a Sign for HerMan-in-doghouse

If you live in a major metropolitan area, chances are you and your girlfriend regularly walk by homeless people.

They would love to have $1, let alone $5. Find a homeless person along the route she usually walks on her way to work.

Come up with a witty sign, like “Angela, John Would Like to Apologize for Going to Poker Night Instead of Visiting with You and Your Family. Will you Forgive him? – From John”

Or whatever — be sure to be creative and witty. I guarantee she will get a kick out of this. You might have to show the homeless guy a picture of her so he knows he needs to get her attention, but having her name on the sign should do the trick.

3. Propose Marriage to Her at a Baseball Game

This one only works if she will go with you to a sporting event. During 7th inning stretch, half-time or throughout the event, they will often post announcements up on the big screen displays throughout the stadium.

Before the game, visit the gaming office where you can tell them to make these announcements, and say that you’d like to make on for a wedding proposal. (or perhaps just to say hi, if she wouldn’t react nicely to a full-on practical joke like this!)

Be sure to keep an eye on the big screen throughout the game, so as not to miss the announcement.

4. Write Your Message in the Sky

We’ve all seen this in the movies, but how many people actually have the guts to go through with it in real life?

For as little as $100, you can hire an airplane to fly a message to your girlfriend across the sky.

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First Time Meeting After Chatting Online

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Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered.  Don’t try to think dirty here folks.  What I’m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as ICQ, MSN or MIRC.

Thanks to these websites and chat software people have been given a better chance to find their partner.  This is because people are given the chance to be connected wherever they might be.  All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard.  In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters.  It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.

After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet.  It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just

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chatting.  Both persons may just be really looking for someone to talk to.

Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away.  This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you wont see the other person thinking that its corny.  Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).

Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard.  This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you.  Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.

Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person.  Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is.  The person instead is like living both worlds.

When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust.  Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the persons mannerisms.  This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome.  Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.

It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.

How to be Sensitive with Women

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If you are hoping to be successful in the world of seduction, you’re going to have to know how to be sensitive. When a woman looks at a man, from her unique perspective, one of the key things she sees is how sensitive you are. It can truly be a pass or fail characteristic. If the lady in your life doesn’t see a sensitive side, she’s going to be put off. Personality counts for so much, especially if you’re hoping to go further with a relationship.

To begin with, it’s important to understand just what sensitivity is. Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one of those things that’s gotten such a bad rap as to make it virtually a taboo. But false impressions are to blame for that, and we can dismiss such misconceptions here so we can get on with the business of becoming a more sensitive man. But what sensitivity really is, in truth, is responsiveness to things around you. It’s a general sense of what’s going on.

Unfortunately, you may be thinking you’ve already got it pegged. But don’t think it’s just a matter of self-awareness and a general idea of the world around you. The sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit further. Or, put more directly, women are looking for a specific kind of sensitivity in men.

Here’s an example you’re sure to remember from some movie you once saw: a young couple are walking along a street at night, and the temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had remembered to bring his. He notices her shivering, and quickly offers his coat to her, despite his own need for the coat.

Okay, that’s a basic example. But what matters is that the guy was aware of his girlfriend’s need, and he did something about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for her. This is a big deal. When a man can be more concerned about the welfare of someone else than himself, he’s got a chance to impress the ladies.

Setting the Mood with Your Date

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Nothing makes for a more romantic gesture than one that is made purely for the sake of romance itself. When it comes to seducing a woman if you want to make a really great impression on us then youll want to pull out all the stops and create a romantic date without waiting for a special occasion. Not to mention theres no rule that says you have to wait for a certain day or time.

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This particular tip requires knowing a bit about your lady and what she likes and does’nt like. But you don’t have to know her like the back of your hand in order to make a truly romantic evening for the two of you to share. The most important thing is to consider what you know she finds romantic and then do your best to create that for her. The very fact that you thought of her and wanted to romance her out of the blue will really impress her and make her feel truly special.

Many of these suggestions would take relatively little time for preparation. Remember, its sometimes the smallest gesture that will really make a woman feel special. The first romantic setting is a candlelit picnic in a park or other quiet location. This is sure to make your lady feel special. There’s no special occasion needed. This is also easy to put together with a bottle of wine, some cheese, strawberries, whatever the two of you like.

If you have a portable CD player you can bring that along with a disc of romantic music and youll have an evening that the both of you are sure to remember. Just dont forget to check the weather and be sure to bring the blanket!

The next suggestion I have is good for any weather, a nice candlelit meal consisting of her favorite foods and dessert at your place. When youre planning this evening be sure to have soft, romantic music on and a nice bottle of wine. Her favorite flowers would be an extra nice touch. This meal could be prepared by you or ordered and picked up from a restaurant.

As long as you’ve taken care to choose what she likes its sure to be a huge hit! If your place tends to be a bit messy, be sure to take the extra bit of time to clean it up so that shes not tripping over your tennis shoes or gym bag.

6 Tips to Choose the Best Place for a First Date

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Lets assume for a minute that you have met a great girl and that you want more than a one-night-stand. You want to have a good time with her because you want to develop a long-term relationship.

I believe that there isnt a perfect general place for all first dates, just the perfect place for you and your future date. One where you have been with your ex date and it was great, could be a wrong choice for your date with another girl.

Make sure your first date will be a success choosing the right place. There are some rules and criteria that will help you to make the best decision:

  1. For your very first meeting it is suggested that you only make it brief but fun, inexpensive and relaxing.
  2. Chose the place for the first date according your date’s age and lifestyle. Maybe you don’t know too much about the women you are going to ask for a date, but you can make a clue about her, looking to how she is dressing and watching the type of people she is hanging around.
  3. Particularly on a first date, you may wish to leave early, or so may they. An exit plan for both guys and girls is always useful.
  4. Dates that will make you interact with the other person and share both your interests will not only teach you more about them, but also show how compatible you actually are. Sporting events, concerts and picnics are great places for first dates. You can talk, and being outside, everything feels less claustrophobic. It’s easy and relaxed and clothing usually isn’t a problem
  5. It makes a difference if you can find something that she will remember for a long time. If in your area is an event like circus, carnival, festival, don’t miss it and you two will have more fun than at a coffee place that’s for sure. There wouldn’t be any pressure; you will only have to enjoy the company.
  6. If you are dating late in the evening make sure that you walk in places where your date is feeling safe. Don’t forget that she does not know you very well and being alone with you in a place that is not public can make her feel insecure. It is normal!

By being unique and creative, you’ll stand out among the other guys she’s dated and she will want to be with you again.

6 Secrets to Be the Nice Guy Women Want

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Sure you’re nice – most people are. So what?

This quality is one that reflects your feeling that you’re a man worth knowing and you deserve women’s attention. But do you really believe that women pay attention to what you think you deserve?

Being nice is not enough. Okay, fine, you’re nice, but you also need to be interesting.

Unfortunately, “nice guy” equates to wimp/dweeb in too many people’s minds.

Believe me: you don’t have to be a jerk to attract women!

As a matter of fact, women did not like jerks or aggressive men. They are attracted by challenging, interesting guys. That’s all. You can be interesting, challenging and still a nice man. Be yourself but keep in mind these significant things that can make the difference between a regular nice guy and a successful one:

1. Women LOVE a man who is a CHALLENGE… the quickest and easiest way I’ve ever heard to let a woman know that YOU are the guy she should be pursuing is to let women know you are successful with women. Be a nice guy, but one that is desirable. 🙂

2. The MOST EFFECTIVE way to approach a woman and spark her attraction for you is giving her a COMPLIMENT on her looks. This can be a disaster if done wrong… but just find something at her what you really think is special, different about her. You give attention, and you will get attention in return!

3. Not being aggressive doesn’t mean that you have to wait for madam perfection to drop into your lap (which you as a “nice guy” deserve by definition, of course). You have to take some initiative. BE SELF-CONFIDENT (but not really cocky) and show some honest interest in something about a woman.

4. The best selling genre of books in the world is romance novels… because women LOVE romance. So don’t talk about sport for God seek! If you are not the type of man that reads poetry or is able to talk about moon or about the smell of burned tree leafs, don’t do it. You’ll look unnatural. But taking your date in a romantic place, offering her a nice flower, enjoying some good music or even touching her hand in a delicate way is very romantic.

5. And don’t talk only about you. You want her to listen to you? Then first listen carefully to her when she needs to be heard. The most effective way to be interesting is asking questions and listens. Only try and you’ll see. 🙂

Keep in mind that often (not always, but very often) when a woman tells you about a problem she’s having, she’s not looking to you for the solution. What? That doesn’t make sense? What she’s often looking for is comfort and reassurance and knowing that YOU’RE THERE.

6. One of the most important things in dating is to approach women that are interested in dating and women that seem to be interested in you. Don’t try to sell candies to someone that is looking for peanuts and don’t waste your time with women that are still affected by their ex long term relationships. You don’t want to be just a shoulder to cry?

You only live once, so live your life well!

8 Quick Ways to Relax Before a Big Date

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So you haven’t been out on a date in awhile and you’re nervous that you’ll do or say the wrong thing. Or perhaps your last date was such a disaster that it should have had a rating 5 on the weather channel. Getting nervous before a date is understandable. Will they be attracted to you? Are you both on the same wavelength? Will you be able to control your mouth from saying something your brain knows is stupid?

Mistakes usually occur when stress levels are high. And lets face it dating is a stressful endeavour. The best thing you can do before a date isrelaxI know that is easier said than done but here are 8 easy ways to chillout before your dates arrives so that you actually have a good time on your date without any jittery mis-steps.

  1. Meditate or if that sounds too mystical just close your eyes and focus on your breathing, feel it as it goes in and feel it go out. Can you feel it flow through your nostrils into your lungs? Does your stomach expand too? If it does then you know your breathing deeply and you’ll get the most benefit from the activity. See if you can focus on the pause between breaths and that between an inhale and an exhale. Do it for 5 minutes or do it for 20 – the length is not as important as your focus during this time.
  2. Sing. Really loudly. Obviously this isn’t going to work in an office but it’s great in the car, especially at night if you’re worried about other people looking at you oddly.
  3. Stretch. Try standing with your feet hip width apart and then take a deep breath, rise up onto your toes and reach up to the ceiling with your fingertips. Hold for as long as you can. And then slowly release your breath, your arms and finally put your heels back on the ground.
  4. Go for a walk even if it’s just around the office or your living room. Or you could walk to the mailbox or do 6 starjumps or put on some dancing music. Anything to get your body moving and those endorphins flowing.
  5. Give yourself a quick massage – your feet or hands are good places to start for a quick treat. Keep some hand cream or body lotion at your desk or in your bedside table and you’ll always be ready to treat yourself. And take your time – afterall YOU know the bits you like.
  6. Connect with your inner child – Do a handstand or a cartwheel – this isn’t going to work indoors but if you’re wearing trousers there’s no reason why you can’t do it in the park on your way to meet your date. And while you’re there have a go on the slide too (not a good option if you’re wearing white and its probably a good idea to make sure the ramp is clean before you slide).
  7. Go somewhere private and be as unbelievably angry as you possibly can and try to stay angry – you’ll find that 9 times out of 10 you won’t be able to sustain it. The idea is not to get all worked up and then go and spray your anger at your date. It’s about getting it all out and then dealing with whatever situation needs addressing. In order to do this you need to make sure that you don’t leave your private space until you feel like your anger has all gone. We hear so much about anger management when it’s not really about managing it, but rather letting it out. Just remember the golden rule: its OK to get angry but its not OK to take it out on someone or something else.
  8. Read fiction – almost everyone agrees that fiction is a wonderful escape from the day to day. There’s nothing quite like stepping out of your own life and into the lives of the characters in a good story. And a good short story is just the thing for a 15 minute chillout session. Don’t know where to start? Check out www.espressofiction.comfor some cool fiction that can be sent to you by email each week.

Hope these tips work for you on your next date. You might even find you enjoy it!

5 Great Tips On How To Get Girls

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Among the many emotions that man was destined to experience, it seems that love is the best emotions ever created.

No wonder why many people are wishing to find their own true love to be happy and live a life that is full of contentment and satisfactions in spite of the many trials that life has to offer.

According to some surveys, most of the people would want to marry some day, that is why each of them are willing to go out on dates. In the U.S. alone, nearly 53% said that they have dated more than one person at the same time.

However, the concept boils down to the fact that even if dating seems to be the ideal ways to start develop a great relationship founded on true love, still it cannot be directly concluded that the activity is relatively easy.

Take for example the idea of getting a girl. Many boys are having a hard time finding the best strategy to get girls. This is because many boys also have their own fears, especially the fear of rejection.

So for those who want to know how to get a girl and ask her on a date, here are five ways that will surely make you get one and have fun:

1. Create a dazzling personality

According to some statistical reports, almost 30% of the adult population in the U.S. who are engaged into dating activities stated that the most important attribute that they are looking for in a guy is the personality. That is why most girls insist that the looks are not that important, what matters most is the personality of the person.

So if you really want to succeed in getting a girl, try to create an impression first that you have the best personality in the world. This can be projected through your sense of humor, confidence, and the way you carry the conversation with wit.

2. Be cool

The key to getting a girl should not project an air of desperation. Even if you have not dated a girl yet, try to be cool and create an impression that you want to get the girl because you like her and not because you are in desperate need of a partner.

3. Be ready for rejections

The problem with most people, especially guys, is that they have too high expectations when it comes to dating and relationships. In fact, almost 62% of those who are into dating have asserted that the peoples probabilities and expectations are very high these days.

Hence, it is a must that people must learn how to face rejections, especially men, so that getting girls would be easier. Keep in mind that girls can still say no even if you have the best car, good looks, and dazzling personality.

If in case you were not able to get the girl that you want, try to reflect what might have been the cause why she had rejected you. Also, there are still other girls out there that you can turn to, so do not be despaired

4. Consider the No 

There are many cases wherein a girl might say no for two possible reasons: one is that she does not like you, and the second reason is that she wants to go out with you but not tonight. These are two different situations that must be clearly understood.

The problem with some guys is that they take it personally whenever they receive some forms of rejections. So it is better to analyze the situation and the intention of the girl by saying NO.

5. Be casual

The best way to get a girl is to make her feel that the date would be very casual and would not necessarily involve a conventional date or anything that would imply romantic involvement.

What matters most is for the girl to enjoy her time with you such that if both of you stand a chance of having a good relationship in the future, the memory of your first date should have been vested on good recall.

The bottom line is that guys should never make the girls feel pressured in saying yes every time they are being asked to go out. What matters most in getting a girl is to make it sure that the person concerned will be comfortable and would feel that she will be in good hands.