It really is that simple – Pat Robertson is totally out of touch with common sense and reality and this post on the Huffington Post proves it…
Pat Robertson Tells Wife Of Cheating Husband To Be Grateful For Marriage, Make Home Enticing
Responding to a question from a viewer, Robertson said that married men “have a tendency to wander” and it is the spurned wife’s job to focus on the positive and make sure the home is so enticing, he doesn’t want to stray.
“I’ve been trying to forgive my husband for cheating on me,” the viewer writes. “We have gone to counseling, but I just can’t seem to forgive, nor can I trust. How do you let go of the anger? How do you trust again?”
While Robertson’s co-host hedged on the question, calling forgiveness “difficult” and spousal infidelity “one of the ultimate betrayals,” Robertson got right to the point.
“Here’s the secret,” the famous evangelical said. “Stop talking the cheating. He cheated on you, well, he’s a man.”
The wife needs to focus on the reasons she married her spouse, he continued.
“Does he provide a home for you to live in,” Robertson said. ‘Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear? Is he nice to the children… Is he handsome?”
Robertson also offered a little advice on the “tendency of man.”
“Recognize also, like it or not, males have a tendency to wander a little bit,” Robertson said. “What you want to do is make a home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander” or give in to the “salacious” magazine pictures and Internet filled with porn.
To Read the Rest of the Article, click the link – http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/15/pat-robertson-cheating-husband-wife-marriage_n_3281416.html
Hmmmm – I don’t think I know where to start with that, but these actions are one of the things that make people skeptical about religion.
I think there were 10 words he said in that video that I agree with, but the majority sounded like “boys will be boys” to me.
I grew up around this kind of mentality is some ways with my father and grandfather. Not involving cheating – but about the man’s responsibility and the woman’s responsibility. I also saw over 40+ years, what it does to the people in those types of relationships. I’ve seen the surviving spouses attitude after the death of their spouse and how these attitudes and behavior by parents, affected their children. From my personal experience, this mentality does not work and it certainly doesn’t increase the strength of the relationships or the respect and love the spouses have for one another.
For men and women – it won’t help you to focus on the cheating. Be brutally honest with yourself and figure out why he cheated. You can’t fix a problem until you figure out the root cause of the problem. There are many reasons why partners cheat – its a matter of finding that root cause.
Each partner should work to remember why they fell in love with their partner, and to look good for each other, to treat each other well, to do their share around the house and for the family, to maintain a real intimacy with one another and much more. If any of these things are lacking in your relationship – you will be better served to sit down together and have an open and honest discussion — without judging or condemning each other for the way you feel.
Its not always easy, but isn’t your relationship and your family worth the effort?? If you need help – you are welcome to contact me. I’m a love and relationship coach and can help you talk with each other, to draw out the information you need to share and to mediate the conversations. I can be reached by clicking on the “contact” link on the right or at nikki @ nikkileigh.com