I like to educate people that you need to pay attention to your partner from head to toe. I also remind people that here are erogenous zones all over the body – so never limit yourself to just a couple of areas of your partner’s body. This also applies when you are getting to know someone new.
Guy are well known for checking out several specific areas of the female body – the chest/breasts, legs, butt, face and not necessarily in that order. And, I admit that women tend to focus on specific areas of the male body – my preferences are the eyes and the butt. However, we need to pay attention to all areas of a person’s body and most importantly – their body language from head to toe.
It is very essential to have the ability to read and understand another person’s body language. Listening only to the words the other person says is not always enough. His or her body language can always tell if that person is being honest in what she is saying and what she really feels deep inside.
Body language includes gestures and movements involving all part of the body, from head to foot. Each signal of body language may have different meanings, depending on the situation in which it was delivered. Here are some basics for different parts of the body to help you “read” your partner’s body language.
A simple nod or shake of the head can signal yes or no. This is true in the US, but keep in mind that in Yugoslavia and Turkey, it sometimes means “no”.
Tilting the head backwards or to the side indicates the person is thinking deeply or considering a though or idea.
Face (Eyes, Nose, Lips)
Facial expressions are obvious visible signs of how someone truly feels, however some have practiced controlling their facial expressions by appearing passive or expressionless.
Even with an expressionless face, nobody could miss what is expressed through the eyes. The eyes can speak volumes in any circumstance. Eye contact is a strong indication of their focus of attention, interest, attraction, and honesty. You can spot somebody lying to you if he or she cannot hold eye contact for a period of time. When the eyes would look away, it signifies lack of interest, dishonesty, and boredom. But there are times when looking away signifies attraction or simply a slight distraction, as long as the person brings their gaze back to the person he is talking to.
Touching or rubbing the nose is one of the most common self-touching gestures, which is usually done by people who are lying or trying to hide something. Blowing the nose is a gesture seen as rude by most countries, but it is considered healthy in some countries in Asia. Speaking as someone with a lot of allergy and sinus problems – remember that nose touching or blowing the nose can be a health issue.
Licking or biting the lips is a typical sign of flirting done by women. Kissing is a gesture to show one’s affection, and also used as a form of greeting. But there are conservative countries, particularly in Asia, which do not allow public display of affection such as kissing. In some cultures like in the Philippines and Puerto Rico, the lips are used for pointing instead of the finger.
Arms And Hands
There are plenty of different hand gestures, and each has different meanings. The most common hand gestures are putting hands-in-the-pocket, arms crossed over the chest, hands on the waist, and handshakes. Putting hands in the pocket may indicate nervousness or lack of interest. Crossing the arms signifies a defensive posture, and may indicate doubt or suspicion of what the other person is saying. Hands on the waist may indicate anger or fury, but men also do this to show their masculinity. A handshake, meanwhile, is a form of greeting in most countries. There are many variations of a handshake, but that’s material for another article.
Legs And Feet
Crossing the legs is done by most people, especially women. Most of the time, it is done as a comfortable position. However, there are countries that regard this action as rude.
The Misuse Of The Ability
The ability of reading someone’s body gestures sometimes is not reliable. The gestures performed by a person that are regarded as rude by other people may just be habits of that person without the intention of being rude.
Amateur body language reading is not a specific science, but can give you some indications of what the other person is thinking or feeling. What body language signs have you found to be helpful for you?