How have your sexual preferences and behavior changed over the years. In our 20s, we are often learning about ourselves and the opposite size. So many things are new to us and we may have insecurities about our prowess, our skills, and maybe our gender preferences. There are plenty of young men and women who experiment during their college years – the new freedom from parental oversight makes college a great time to try new things and experiment.
As we move into our 30s, our sexual confidence is likely to grow and we may want to try more adventurous things. Maybe you want to try BDSM or if you prefer vanilla sex, you may want to add some light bondage or pain. Many women experience more orgasms in their 30s, this may be because of increased confidence or because we are willing to ask for what we want from our partner.
The difficulties many couples feel in their 30s are created by having young children in the house – because of interruptions and exhaustion from your children. But as the children grow older and have more independence, their parents may find they have more time for private, sexual time together in their 40s or later.
But as we age, our bodies may begin to give us unique problems. Over half of the men will have problems getting an erection – not all the time, but from time to time they may have this problem. The men and their partners need to be understanding about these common issues. The problem will be made worse if the men or their partner overreact or are extremely negative about these difficulties. There are many temporary issues that may manifest themselves through erectile dysfunction, so its good to do thorough research and see what you need to adjust in your life to alleviate this problem. But I can tell you that added stress only makes the problem worse.
By the time we reach our 40s, over half of the people have been unfaithful to a partner. Whether this makes it wrong or right is a difficult question, but it is a fact of life for many men and women. So, heading into our late thirties and early forties, we should take a look at our relationship and see if there are any warning signs of potential problems. Learn more about the issues that are likely to lead to cheating and do what you can to head them off. A great resource is the Loveologists Guide to Understand Cheating – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/DrAvaPages/luguide-cheating.html
There could be many reasons for this – but most people are having less sex in their 40s. This could definitely lead to the temptation to cheat, so be aware of letting our sex lives slide. Decreased sexual activity could also be a reason why a third of the men in their 40s are watching porn regularly. Or, it could be because their partners are more comfortable with incorporating porn into their time together.
As we move into our 40s, many people stop using protection when they have sex – even with new partners. Maybe we have gotten into a groove with a long term partner or there could be another reason – but it is important to be safe and especially with new partners or if you are having casual sex or one night stands. You’re never too old to be safe.
Which of these things sound familiar to you? Are they issues that concern you? Its important that we don’t get into a rut with our sex lives and our partners. There can be many ways that we take our partner for granted, but you can head off many problems by maintaining a healthy sex life that is satisfying to you and your partner – for years to come.
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